What Does God Say About Women in the Pulpit?

1 Corinthians 14:34-35

Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience as also saith the law.  And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.

1 Timothy 2:11-14

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.  But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.   For Adam was first formed, then Eve.  And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.

1 Timothy 3:2

A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach…

Titus 1:6-7

If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.  For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre…

As I read through these passages of scripture, I am tempted to let them stand alone as my blog post, for there is absolutely nothing that I can add to these words to make them any more resounding.  God’s Word says what it means, and means what it says.   I will, however, succumb to the temptation to jump up and down and scream at the top of my lungs that women are not permitted to take an authoritative position in the church of Jesus Christ.

I read an article today on my Twitter feed about a well known female who calls herself a preacher, and how she was honored with several doctorate degrees from several different universities that take liberties with God’s Word just as she does.  Because of these “honors”, she has attached the letters “Dr.” to the front of her name.  I laughed when I began to read the heresy that comes out of the universities that bestowed this “honor” upon her, and I thought, well…there was nothing else that they could do but give her an “honorary” doctorate to go along with her high school diploma!  But I digress…

This particular woman has been calling herself a preacher now for a couple of decades, I guess.  She has traveled the world and is a household name amongst staunch charismatics.  I have even heard her defend her place in the pulpit, claiming that God anointed her for what she does.  It had to be God, I’ve heard her say.  My question is this: what does God’s Word say about women in the pulpit?

1 Corinthians 14:34-35

Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience as also saith the law.  And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.

God’s design from the very beginning was for women to lovingly submit to the loving leadership of men.  God told the woman in Genesis 3:16 “…thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”  When women decide to usurp a role that God did not intend for them, what ultimately happens is that they fall into other ungodly, unbiblical practices as well.  If you look closely at the charismatic movement in the United States today, you will see that it is riddled with women in leadership positions, and there is rampant sin running through its churches and families.

This is not to say that there are not intelligent, talented, gifted women within the body of Christ.  Many women that I know personally have spent more time studying God’s Word, and can explain it better and more clearly than most men I know!  However, God’s plan is not for women to take an authoritative position within the church.  Anyone who handles God’s Word within God’s church is taking an authoritative role, and that role is solely and distinctly set aside in God’s Word for men, and men only.  God has designed an order for His church, and when that order is disrupted, the church becomes weak and God is dishonored.  In my personal opinion, I believe this is one of the reasons that the church is so ineffective in its witness to the world.  The gender roles have been skewed so much so that we look just like the world.

1 Timothy 2:11-14

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.  But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.   For Adam was first formed, then Eve.  And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.

Paul continues to stress what he taught the church at Corinth about gender roles.  This time, however, the situation was dire.  Here, Paul is explaining to Timothy, who was of Greek heritage, God’s instruction for women.  Timothy obviously knew how dire the situation was for Greek women.  Historians record that respectable Greek women lived a very sheltered life, rarely even being seen in public, and certainly not being seen alone. Greek women lived in their own quarters, and no one was allowed in those quarters except their husbands.  This suppression brought out a strong reaction from the women in Ephesus, and they took it too far by demanding to be heard in the public worship services.  Paul explained that they did have the right to learn, but they did not have the right to teach.

This does not mean that women are not spiritually equal to men.  (Deuteronomy 1:1, 16:9-15, Exodus 12:3, 21:28-32, Numbers 36:1-12)  Women were allowed to participate in spiritual service (Exodus 38:8, Nehemiah 7:67) and sometimes, the LORD chose to deal with women directly (Genesis 3:13, 16:7-13, Judges 13:3).

Just because men and women are equal spiritually does mean that they have the same roles.  God designed male headship in the home, (Genesis 3:16) and it only makes sense to me that if the male has the leadership role in the privacy of his home, why would he not have it in the public worship?

Paul also points out to Timothy that the woman was created for the man, and not the other way around.  The man was created (Genesis 2:7), and then God placed him in a deep sleep, took a rib (Genesis 2:21), and made a woman to be a mate for the man (Genesis 2:22).  The woman was the one who was deceived by the serpent (Genesis 3:1-6), because the woman, more than the man, follows her emotion.  On the other hand, the man, whom God placed in leadership position, follows his rationale.

1 Timothy 3:2

A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach…

This verse speaks for itself.  As we draw closer to the time that the LORD will return, we see more and more gender roles skewed, so much so that I think society is trying to erase gender altogether.  God, however, will not erase gender.  Genesis 1:27 says “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created He him; male and female created He them.”  Regardless of how many people have surgery to change their designated gender parts to the opposite gender, God only recognizes the gender assignment that He has given to each of us.  I remember a few years ago, a very famous singer’s daughter had surgery to change herself into a man.  She even wrote a book about how difficult the transformation was.  Well, of course it was difficult!  She was taking what God created, trying to change it into what she wanted it to be.  As much as she may think that now she is a man, when she stands before God, she will still be that little girl who was born to a very famous singer and her husband.

I said all that to get to the point made in this verse.  In church leadership, if a man is called to such a position, he must be blameless, meaning that no true accusations can be made against him, and he must be the husband of one wife.  Regardless of how many men think they are marrying other men, or how many women think they are changing their gender, only men that God created as men can be husbands.  Only men that God created as men can marry women that God created as women.  Those are the husbands to which this verse is referring.  (Whew!  You know the world is in bad shape when you have to explain all of that!)  If the leader of the church is to be the husband of one wife, then he has to be a man.  That is the point that I and this verse are trying to make.  Leadership is designated to males, period.

Titus 1:6-7

If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.  For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre…

Titus takes the Timothy 3 verse a step further.  Paul explains to Titus that not only should this man be the husband of one wife, but he must have children who know how to behave.  His children cannot be the ones who are on the news for robbing a bank, or beating up their girlfriends, or being caught with drugs in their possession.  The leader must be a father who has trained his children properly, and that training is evident in the behaviors that they demonstrate in public.  What they do in private will definitely manifest itself in the public worship.

These verses all point to male leadership.  I so desperately try to stress this to my friends who are still attending churches where women are in the pulpit.  I want to help them to understand that partial obedience is total disobedience, and if we willingly err in one point of God’s law, we have broken it all.  We cannot decide which points we want to obey and which ones that we want to ignore.  God is going to judge us on what we did with all of His instruction.

If you are in a church where women are pastors, preachers, teachers, leaders, or in any kind of center stage ministry, I would advise you to begin this Sunday visiting other churches where there are no women in pulpit ministry.  The church where women are in leadership are churches where sin is running rampant.  They are churches where sin is excused and covered up and ignored.  They are churches that will not be pleasing to the LORD when He returns.

What does God’s Word say about women in the pulpit?  It says that women do not belong there.  Period.

This Article Should Make All of Us Very Uncomfortable

James 1:14-15

But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.  Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.

I saw this article on my Twitter feed.  It hits close to home for me because my husband’s porn addiction destroyed our marriage.  Addiction to pornography is just like being addicted to cocaine or alcohol.  It affects the way the brain works, the way a person behaves, and their interaction with others.  It also breaks the heart of the person who has been betrayed.

In this article, a young woman describes how she got into the porn industry.  She gives a behind the scenes look at truths about porn that no one really considers when they are clicking on inappropriate websites.  She talks about the effect her upbringing had on her decision to go down this dark, demonic path.  She gives an insider’s view on the satanic world of pornography.

Praise God, however, that there is redemption.  There is a loving, kind, compassionate Father in heaven, Who loves and will restore those who want to be redeemed from this lifestyle.  I prayed for so long that my husband would come to know that redemption, but to this point, he has not.  If you are bound by a porn addiction, or if you are involved in that dark industry, there is hope.  Cry out to Jesus and He will save you.

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This former porn star is exposing porn’s secrets: and it should make you very, very uncomfortable.

“If porn is as bad as you say it is, why does anyone still work in porn?”

This is a common response to anti-porn advocates who argue that pornography is sexually violent, the visual celebration of rape and a perverse glorification of the degradation of women and girls.

There are, of course, many answers to this question: Some women are desperate for money; many, if not most, have been sexually abused; still others have been deceived into thinking that the porn business is a glamorous and sexy business (the mainstreaming of Playboy and the increasing crossover of porn stars into other entertainment industries has certainly contributed to that).

But to find out what women experience inside the porn industry firsthand, I decided to call someone who’d been through it herself: Shelley Lubben.

Shelley Lubben was a porn star in the 1990s, having entered the industry as a prostitute at a very young age. The “sexual exploitation industries,” as Dr. Mary Anne Layden refers to the various aspects of the sex business, soon began to take their toll.

“It’s a vicious circle [being] a sex worker, because you’re stripping, taxi dancing, and you just get burned out in prostitution,” Lubben told me. “After prostitution I got burned out, and I was lied to that I would be safe from STDs (sexually transmitted diseases) and I would make all this money. I was a single parent, so what the heck, might as well do sex on camera. But it was completely and utterly the worst, darkest thing I’ve ever been involved in.”

For starters, Lubben had assumed that unlike in prostitution, where many of the johns didn’t want to use condoms, the porn industry would at least keep her safe from STDs. It didn’t—and that’s because, as Lubben tells it, the entire porn industry is rife with them.

“We didn’t use condoms in porn,” she said bluntly. “There’s no condoms allowed, so we’re forced to do unprotected sex—and I can’t tell you how many people alter their tests. Just last year, they had 4 HIV cases, a high bunch out of a very small group of people…we know that most of the porn stars have had an STD at one time or another, and they estimate between 66% to 99% have herpes. They don’t test for herpes, so all these people are involved with rampant STDs.

“Even the LA Public Health Department shows they’ve been monitoring and they came up with thousands and thousands [of cases] of chlamydia and gonorrhea. They’re the highest group in California to have that many STDs. So when people click [on porn], they’re contributing to sex trafficking, they’re contributing to STDs, they’re contributing to people who are mostly alcohol to drug addicts. Now I’m speaking of the majority. Not every porn star’s a drug addict, but the majority of them are. And I can’t tell you, when I went through recovery, I had PTSD. I had all kinds of disorders, serious traumas.”

It’s a story I have read time and time again in my research on the porn industry, so I had to ask: why did she get involved in the sexual exploitation industries in the first place?

“Well I’d been sexually abused at nine years old by a teenage boy and his sister,” Shelley Lubben replied. “So I experienced very shocking heterosexual and homosexual activity at a very young age, and at the same time I was raised by the television – I was allowed to watch R-rated movies, horror movies, movies with sexual content, so I learned about love and sex from abuse and from basically parental neglect, because they would just allow us to watch these things.

“And then as I got older, I was rebelling because my dad was not very involved in my life, and I began to look for sex with boys because the boys would say they loved me. So it was this cycle that I felt in my head that I’m loved if I have sex with a person. My dad kicked me out on the street for being rebellious, and I ended up in San Fernando, LA, which is Porn Valley, and a pimp lured me in, and I was very naïve. No, I was rebellious, I was not naïve. He lured me in for 35 dollars, and then he… you know, I had to escape from him physically, because he became very abusive, and then a Madame found me, and it just spiraled on.”

Once she was embedded, Lubben felt trapped in a cycle of degradation and destruction.

“I would hate prostitution, feel guilty, then I would do stripping to survive,” she said. “I had no education – most of these girls that enter porn do not really have an education, there’s gonna be maybe a few that say they have degrees, although I have yet to see one – but most of the girls don’t come from, like, healthy families, where they have a healthy self-esteem. I haven’t really met porn stars with really healthy families. That doesn’t mean they don’t exist, but maybe they exist in their mind because of course different girls are gonna wanna say they’re empowered by their sex work, because what you can’t beat, you’re gonna join. You don’t want people to think you’re weak when you’re in porn; you wanna act like you love it and you love rough stuff, and you love being violated, and called degrading names. It’s all just a pack of lies. People do porn because they need the money, and most of them don’t have other options or education.”

The porn industry is dark, evil, and incredibly violent—and it has been that way for a very long time. I read Lubben some of Dr. Gail Dines’ research on how pornography is becoming more violent, and then asked her if that reflected her experience.

“Absolutely,” she replied. “It was even violent back in my day, but I got involved in hardcore porn just because I was still filled with rage from my parents. But yeah, in my day I would have never let anyone rip my mouth or put some weird gadget in my mouth or do something where they’re causing a rectum prolapse, I wouldn’t have done that. I would’ve walked away. Nowadays, girls have to end up doing that stuff, ‘cause that’s what sells. So it’s really sad this is a lot of our society that, but you know, everyone’s so desensitized to vanilla sex now. They want it harder, and grosser and darker, and you know, I can’t imagine what our society will be like in 20 years from now. I can’t, I don’t think I… I’ll have to like move to the mountains or something, because I doubt any normal girl could walk the street at that point.”

It’s shocking in some ways that the porn industry is so mainstream and so popular, considering that at the same time there had been a chorus of voices speaking out against sex trafficking. Doesn’t the porn industry, I asked Lubben, feed into sex trafficking?

“A lot of people think that pornography fuels sex trafficking and it does,” Lubben said firmly. “But it does that because it is sex trafficking. It’s called [a] cutthroat business because it’s trafficking; all of us have been coerced into doing a scene we didn’t wanna do. We went to fraudulent doctors or fraudulent clinics they sent us to. In fact, their clinics – the main porn star clinic closed down a couple years ago, because a lot of us were standing against it – but we had a former porn actress who has a PhD in sexology, and she would put on a white lab coat and tell the girls, ‘Call me Dr. Sharon Mitchell.’ So all these girls think that she’s a medical doctor, and they would go there for her medical advice and for STD treatment and testing. So that’s just one way they’re fraudulent.

“Another way [is that] pornographers make false promises: ‘If you do this scene I promise that you’re going to get this money, or you’re going to get the box cover’ or, ‘You won’t have to do this kind of scene anymore.’ It’s all based on lies. And so you’ve gotta be tough to be in that business.

“You know, most of these films are made in private locations, and private mansions, or hotel rooms where’s there’s no government access. So it’s like two young girls, 18, 19, 20-year-old girls on a mostly older male set. The producer’s male, the crew’s male…so of course, we’re intimidated into doing scenes we don’t wanna do. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve showed up and they said, ‘You need to do this scene,’ [and] I said, ‘No, that’s not what my agent said,’ or ‘That’s not what I was told to do,’ and they’re like, ‘Well, you’re gonna do it or we’re not gonna pay you, we’re going to sue you.’ And now with the Internet they tell the girls, ‘If you don’t do this scene, we’re going to send your porn to your family members, we’re gonna ruin your reputation, you’re never gonna work again, we’re gonna take away your finances, we’re gonna physically hurt you,’ or they threaten to sue them. This is sex trafficking. Every porn star has been trafficked at least at one time or another in the porn industry.”

It is because of this that Shelley Lubben, after eight years, finally left the porn industry after meeting a pastor, who later married her, sticking with her through ten long, painful years of recovery. In 2007, she started the Pink Cross Foundation, which works to bring porn actresses and porn actors out of the porn industry, offering them hope and healing, and warning young people enamored with the industry of the darkness and pain that awaits them within.

Before I hung up the phone, I asked Shelley Lubben one final question: “If you could say one thing to someone who’s looking at pornography, what would you say?”

She barely had to pause. “You’re contributing to your demise,” she answered. “And to your family’s demise, and your wife’s. I can’t tell you how many porn addicts have lost their families and jobs. It’s really sad. And they’re contributing to children being raped. I’m like—for a better reason not to click on porn, [think about] child porn. Just think, right now as I’ve been talking to you, there are little children that are being drugged and raped. How could anyone click on porn knowing that?”

And indeed, after hearing Shelley’s story, many, many people have come to just that conclusion: Porn is a destructive force. Porn has ruined many lives. For the good of our families, our society, and ourselves—it’s time to count the cost, and cut porn out for good.

Pray for Charlie Gard

James 5:15-16

And the prayer of faith shall save the sick, and the LORD shall raise him up; and if he have committed sins, they shall be forgiven him.  Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

If you are on Twitter, I am sure you have seen at least one tweet about the sick little boy, Charlie Gard, who is in a British hospital on life support.  The British government has given the hospital the authority to remove Charlie from life support based on his prognosis.  Charlie’s parents have been fighting tooth and nail to keep their son alive on live support to find someone else who is willing to give him the care he so desperately needs.

Mr. Donald Trump, the President of the United States, has offered to assist in Charlie’s care.  Mr. Trump has pledged America’s assistance to the Gard family, if the hospital no longer wants to provide him with care.  As of last evening, the hospital would not release Charlie and would not agree to allowing anyone else to care for him.

Today, I did read a tweet from LifeSite news that said Charlie remains on life support, and that his parents are headed back to court.  President Trump is out of the country, but I also read that he is meeting with the British prime minister to ask her why she is refusing to help the Gard family save their little boy’s life.

This situation baffles me because I have been the victim, just this past year, of government intervening in my parenting my children and I am floored at how bold and crass the government can be when it comes to homosexuality, death and children.  Why are we, as humans, so obsessed with death?  Why do we not want to see others live?  We are killing babies in the womb.  It is murder and we call it “a woman’s right to choose”.  We are killing ourselves with this obsession with homosexuality…and calling it “the right to love anyone [I] want”.  We are killing our children with lies that we call the truth, and it is breaking my heart.

If you are reading this, please pray for Charlie Gard, his parents and their extended family.  I cannot begin to imagine what they are going through.  Pray for the doctors and nurses who are caring for him, that they might be saved by the blood of Jesus Christ.  Pray for the prime minister of Great Britain, that she would turn her heart to the LORD, and see that God, and God only, is the Giver and Sustainer of life.  Pray for the American government, that we would turn from our wicked ways, so that God will heal our land.  Pray for President Trump, that if he does not have a relationship with the LORD Jesus Christ, today would be the day of his salvation.  Pray for his family and his administration.  Pray that the LORD would soon come, because we need Him terribly.

Please pray for Charlie Gard.

End Abortion Now!

Leviticus 20:2-3

Again, thou shalt say to the children of Israel, Whosoever he be of the children of Israel, or of the strangers that sojourn in Israel, that giveth any of his seed unto Molech; he shall surely be put to death: the people of the land shall stone him with stones.  And I will set My face against that man, and will cut him off from among his people; because he hath given of his seed unto Molech, to defile My sanctuary, and to profane My holy Name.

2 Kings 23:10b

…that no man might make his son or his daughter to pass through the fire to Molech.

Jeremiah 32:34-35

But they set their abominations in the house, which is called by My Name, to defile it.  And they built the high places of Baal, which are in the valley of the son of Hinnom, to cause their sons and their daughters to pass through the fire unto Molech; which I commanded them not, neither came it into My mind, that they should do this abomination, to cause Judah to sin.

There are three things that I really care about when it comes to law-making and the political scene:  1) Where does America stand in our alliance with Israel?  2)  What is our position on homosexual “marriage”?  and 3) How are we going to handle the murderous industry of abortion?  The third one breaks my heart most deeply because America is murdering helpless babies in the womb.  The mother’s womb should be the safest place in the world for an unborn baby.  Nothing and no one, especially not the mother, should invade that space and harm that baby for any reason.  That is not how we view abortion in America.  We call it “a woman’s right to choose”, when it is not a right of hers at all.  If a person took a gun and shot a small child or ran over that child maliciously with a vehicle, that person would be charged with homicide.  It makes no sense to me that we do not see abortion as the same thing.

I have had the chance to protest outside of an abortion clinic in my home state.  As I approached the area across the street from the building where all the protesters gathered, a sick feeling developed in the pit of my stomach.  I began to think of the women who were going into that building.  For whatever reason, they were feeling hopeless and desperate about their pregnancy and felt that this was the only option.  They might have been teenage girls whose parents said they were not raising another child, and this was the only option.  They could have been young women involved with men who said they did not want children, so they had to do this in order to save the relationship.  So many thoughts invaded my mind.  I also thought of my own beautiful children.  How I thank the LORD for the blessings that they have been in my life.  I praise God for the laughter and the joy that I have felt so many days while spending time in my home with my children, having dinner, watching movies, playing games, sitting in a room together talking, or studying God’s Word together.  Those moments are etched into my memory, and they are priceless.

According to http://www.numberofabortions.com, as I am typing these words, there have been more than 59,580,000 abortions performed in the United States since January 23, 1973.  That was the day that abortion was made legal.  Abortions were being performed before that date, but since it was illegal there is no statistical evidence to provide exact numbers.  Almost 60 thousand babies have died at the hands of abortionists since 1973, when I was in the third grade.  Of those 60 thousand babies, can you imagine how many of them would have been productive citizens in the US?  How many doctors, scientists, chemists, biologists, teachers, professors, lawmakers, taxpayers, police officers, politicians, preachers, pastors, evangelists, missionaries, husbands, wives and parents have we murdered since 1973?  I am of the firm belief that if 60 thousand taxpayers were still alive, our national debt would be lower, and social security would still be something to look forward to.  As it stands, by the time I am of retirement age, there will very possibly be no monies left to provide for senior citizens.  This is all because of abortion.

God hates abortion.  His Word calls it an “abomination”.  When He uses that word, He is describing something that is absolutely detestable in His sight.  I can understand His heart on the matter, because it is detestable.  It is beyond my wildest imagination how anyone can think that abortion is a good thing.  I read an article recently where a certain politician said that pro-life groups are “dishonoring God” by fighting the abortionists.  That person could not be more wrong.  The abortionists are the ones who are dishonoring God, and if they do not repent before their soul is required by Him, they will spend all eternity in a devil’s hell.  Leviticus 20 talks about the fire of Molech; how the LORD warned them not to send their children through the fire.  God is saying the same thing to America.  The abortion mill is the fire, and we are Molech.  We need to repent for the spilled blood of almost 60 thousand dead babies at the hand of the abortionists.  We need to end abortion NOW.

My prayer today is that the LORD will deliver women who are on their way to abortion clinics, doctors who perform abortions, nurses who stand by and watch, fathers, husbands and boyfriends who take their daughters, wives, and girlfriends to abortion clinics to kill that new life that is growing inside that uterus, and the lawmakers who stand firm in their position that abortion is a woman’s “right to choose”.  No human gives  life; no human has the right to take it away.  I pray for America this day, that she will open her eyes to the truth of God’s Word, and repent for murdering so many babies.

Will you pray with me for an end to abortion?

The Orphans Need a Family…

James 1:27

Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.

In the state of North Carolina, statistics show that there are more than 10,000 children who are living in foster care at this moment.  These are children who may have been abandoned by their biological parents, removed from the home because of neglect or abuse, or orphaned by their parents death or murder.  Regardless of the reason, these children need homes and families to love them and lead them to the LORD.

This is a passion of mine.  Sometimes I lie in bed at night and fantasize about owning a farmhouse that sits on 30 acres of property, with at least 3000 square feet and five or six bedrooms.  In that home, I dream of bringing in little boys and little girls who have not had the love of a mother or the love of a father in their lives, and are starving for affection, attention, structure, discipline and the knowledge of the LORD Jesus Christ.  Oh how I wish I could afford that!  If I could, and someday I might, I would try my best to get as many children out of foster homes and bring them into a home where they would be loved, shown affection, given attention, given structure, discipline and they would be fed a steady diet of the Word of the LORD!  How I wish I could empty out the foster care system.

I know that you may be thinking that I am crazy.  I have heard it all before.  People say crass things like “Why would you want to take someone else’s problem?” or “Aren’t you ready to get the kids you already have out of your house?”  I answer them with an unequivocal “NO!”  Fortunately for me, I have been blessed to have adopted two children already out of the foster care system.  My two babies were dirty, unkept, and pitiful when they were delivered to my home.  Two years prior to their arrival, I had been praying for the children that God would give to me, and I was fully invested in them from the moment they arrived.  I have loved them just like the children that I bore into the world.  I talk to them the same way I talk to my biological children.  I hug and kiss them, I tell them how much I love them and how blessed I am that God gave them to me.  Today, my son is as handsome as any boy I have ever seen, and my daughter is so beautiful that I think someday she will be a model.  I remember the social worker who worked our adoption told me that my children no longer looked like foster care children.  Oh how that did warm my heart!

I asked my son if he felt that I had a favorite child.  He looked at me with his beautiful eyes and said no…he told me that he knows I love him.  I am so thankful that he is confident in his heart of his mother’s love.

As Mother’s Day approaches, I am praying that more and more women, even those of you who have not yet married, or those of you who may be divorced, will open up your heart and your home to a child in foster care.  Whether a baby or a teenager, each of these children were created in the image of God, designed for a family, and each of them longs for the love and stability that only a Godly family can bring.  Will you pray and ask God to show you if this is the ministry that He has for you?  Will you ask Him to give you the love for children that He has?  He will give it to you if that is your desire.  He will make a way for you to bless and love a child in foster care.  He is faithful like that.

Be Not Unfaithful….

Malachi 2:16 (CEV)

The LORD God All-Powerful of Israel hates anyone who is cruel enough to divorce his wife. So take care never to be unfaithful!

I love how much God loves marriage.  I love the fact that He is not going to hold the man (or woman) guiltless who abandons his or her marriage with no thought of return.  I am glad that He is not going to just let these men within the body of Christ get away with cheating on their wives, abandoning their wives and children, being dishonest, siding with the enemy, and mocking what God joined together for life.

In the verse above, Malachi warns us that the LORD Who is God, the All-Powerful God over Israel, the Creator of heaven and earth, HATES anyone who is cruel enough to make a covenant with his wife and then abandon the covenant.  God hates that!  Malachi is warning us we need to be careful not to do what God hates.

I am so grateful that God will not let the husbands, including my husband, who have walked away from their families, get away with making a promise, and then refusing to keep the promise that they made.  I am glad that God will bring down His judgment on those who disobey Him.  That is not because I want to see anyone punished, but it is because I do not want to feel as though God would allow a person to damage me and my children the way we have been damaged, and just get away with it.  God is faithful!

If any husband who has abandoned his wife is reading this, please know that you cannot escape God’s judgment.  His wrath will come down on you at the time that He chooses, and you will not be able to do anything except suffer under it.  It may seem like you are doing better now that you have your wife out of your life, but you will wish that you had kept the covenant that you made once God gets through with you!

Also, if you claim to be a Christian and have abandoned your wife, you need to understand that you cannot be a Christian and walk in the kind of demonic activity you are walking in presently.  No true believer can ever leave the wife he made a covenant with, and have no remorse or repentance over the separation.  Only the world behaves that way.  You are condemned by your own behavior.  God will judge you.  You are on the road to hell.  Hell is where you will spend eternity.  I hope you think about that.

Let’s Talk About The Covenant

Genesis 2:24

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

I want to talk about a word that people do not use these days:  covenant.  A covenant, as defined by Merriam-Webster Dictionary, as “a solemn agreement between believers to act together in harmony with the precepts of God’s Word“.  I know, that’s a foreign concept in the era in which we live.  Pastors and Bible teachers do not talk about the covenant of marriage.  This is a gaping hole in the picture of what marriage should look like, especially in the church.  So. let’s dig into what the biblical covenant really looks like.

Merriam-Webster defines the covenant as “a solemn agreement between believers to act together in harmony with the precepts of God’s Word”.  Let’s break that definition down.  “A solemn agreement…” is an agreement that one makes after much thought, prayer, and consideration of all implications associated with that agreement.  In other words, this is an agreement that should not be entered into lightly.  Most Bible teaching pastors who conduct wedding ceremonies make this issue plain to the couple getting married.  I remember when my cousin got married back in 2003.  The pastor who married her and her husband talked to them about the fact that this is not anything to play around with…marriage is work and selflessness and unselfishness and more work and giving in when you think you are right and giving up your own rights when you know that you have every right not to…I was so excited, because I had never heard it talked about like that, and I felt like so many of us who were there needed to hear that.  “Between believers…” is where it gets sticky.  Only believers, true born again Christians, believers in the LORD Jesus Christ, who are indwelt by His Holy Spirit will understand what a covenant really is and what is implied by entering into a covenant.  The Bible says in Romans 1:21, “Because that, when they knew God, they glorified Him not as God, neither were thankful; but became vain in their imaginations, and their foolish heart was darkened.”  Their hearts were darkened because they did not know the LORD; His Spirit did not live in their spirits.  They did not UNDERSTAND, because there is no way a person can understand the ways of God without His Spirit living within them.  So, now we know who the true believers are:  folks who have the Spirit of God living in them.  Ephesians 4:17-18 says This I say therefore, and testify in the Lord, that ye henceforth walk not as other Gentiles walk, in the vanity of their mind,  having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart…”  The Apostle Paul, who is the earthly author of the book of Ephesians, says here that we should not walk as the other Gentiles walk.  The Gentiles were the people who were not Israelites, and were not God’s chosen people.  They were those outside of a relationship with the LORD unless they purposely chose to believe in God.  The same thing is true today.  We are born Gentiles and the only way we can be in relationship with the LORD and have the understanding that we need is to purposely have a relationship with Him by repenting of our sins and surrendering our lives and wills to Him.  “To act together in harmony with the precepts of God’s Word” is something that only people who have His Spirit indwelling them can do.  Unbelievers cannot and do not care about acting together in harmony with the precepts of His Word.  Unbelievers only care about doing what they want to do, when they want to do it, and how they want to do it.  Unbelievers do not care about keeping promises or even telling the truth.  As a matter of fact, today truth is subjective to the world!  There is no way that an unbeliever can appreciate the implications of a “covenant”.  

All that said, this is for believers only.  The covenant is an agreement made to act in harmony with the tenets of God’s Word, in obedience to God’s Word, subjecting oneself to God’s Word in submission to God’s Word.  A covenant is, as I have taught my children, a promise that cannot be broken.  God made a covenant with Abraham.  In Genesis 12:2-3, God told Abraham, And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing:  And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.”  God made this promise to Abraham, and to this day, He has not broken this promise.  God reiterated this promise to Abraham’s son, Isaac in Genesis 26:3-5:  I will be with thee, and will bless thee; for unto thee, and unto thy seed, I will give all these countries, and I will perform the oath which I sware unto Abraham thy father;  And I will make thy seed to multiply as the stars of heaven, and will give unto thy seed all these countries; and in thy seed shall all the nations of the earth be blessed…Because that Abraham obeyed my voice, and kept my charge, my commandments, my statutes, and my laws…”  God did the same thing with Jacob, Isaac’s son, in Genesis 28:3-4: “God Almighty bless thee, and make thee fruitful, and multiply thee, that thou mayest be a multitude of people;  And give thee the blessing of Abraham, to thee, and to thy seed with thee; that thou mayest inherit the land wherein thou art a stranger, which God gave unto Abraham.”  God also said to Jacob:  And God said unto him, I am God Almighty: be fruitful and multiply; a nation and a company of nations shall be of thee, and kings shall come out of thy loins;  And the land which I gave Abraham and Isaac, to thee I will give it, and to thy seed after thee will I give the land.” (Genesis 35:11-12).

From that time until now, God has kept the COVENANT that he made with Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.  He made that promise to them, and regardless of what they did, He will not go back on His promise.  So, why is it, when people don’t do exactly what we want done, we think it is ok to go back on our promises?  Why do we think it is ok to break the covenant that we made with the people we say we love?

Abraham sinned before God.  He lied to Abimelech about Sarah being his sister.  He thought that Abimelech would want to take Sarah for his own wife, so to protect himself, he lied and said she was his sister.  (She WAS his sister, but she was also his wife, and the marital relationship supersedes any other relationship.)  In spite of that fact, God kept the covenant with Abraham.  Isaac played favorites with his two sons, and gave the blessing to the “wrong” son.  (We know that God’s providence was at play here, so it was not a mistake that Jacob received Isaac’s blessing.)  In spite of that, God kept His covenant with Isaac.  Jacob sinned before God by tricking his brother Esau out of his birthright, playing favorites between his two wives, and playing favorites within his twelve sons, by preferring his two sons with Rachel over the rest of his sons.  He also did not do a good job of parenting his daughter, Dinah, who became close friends with some of the Canaanite women, became involved in a physical relationship with a man named Shechem, and wound up being the cause of all the men of Shechem being killed by her older brothers.  Despite all of this, God kept His covenant with Jacob.  God loved Jacob, and eventually, He changed Jacob’s name to Israel.  Despite all of that, God kept His covenant with Jacob.  If God kept His covenant with the people that He loved, despite all the times and ways that they sinned against Him, how is it that we think it is okay for us not to keep the covenant that we made with Him and the ones that we say we love?

Marriage is the covenant of which I speak.  When two people marry, they make a covenant.  They promise God and the person that they marry that they will stay together until death.  This is a promise that has been broken at least 50% of the time in America, if you follow the statistics on divorce.  Now, I don’t expect unbelievers to keep their promises.  I don’t expect for those who do not know the LORD Jesus Christ in a personal relationship to keep the promises that they make.  They are not being guided by the same directives as those of us who know the LORD.  They live for themselves; they have not surrendered their lives to the LORD.   But those of us who know Jesus, who believe He suffered and died for us, have His Spirit inside of us and we are led by His Spirit.  We are convicted when we sin against Him.  We are burdened when we make a promise to the LORD and break it.  We are willing to do whatever we need to do to please Him because we love Him and thank Him for the sacrifice that He made for us on the cross.  If that is the case, and I know it is, how are we, the believers, walking away from the covenant of marriage as if it doesn’t mean anything to God?

I am burdened for marriages in the church of Jesus Christ, not only because my own marriage is in peril, but because I know too many other people whose marriages are also suffering.  I know others whose marriages have ended in divorce.  My own marriage is more than likely going to end in divorce based on the hardness of my husband’s heart.  My husband was chastened by the LORD, but came out of the chastening a bitter, harsh, cruel man.  I know now that the reason he is so bitter and cruel is because he has never surrendered his life to the LORD.  He has never confessed his sins to the Father.  He has never humbled himself before the LORD.  He did an okay job of fooling me, but he never fooled the Father.  After years of living a double life, his sins were exposed, and the activity in which he was involved has wrought great spiritual warfare on my children and myself.  He is living in sin, still pretending to be a Christian, out in the open in the church (if you want to call it a church) and the pastor of his church has gone along with his sin!  What has happened to the covenant?

I repeat that teaching on the covenant is a foreign concept in the era in which we live.  No one cares about the promises that we make to God and to others.  No one cares about how one’s sin affects others around them.  No one cares that the husband or the wife who breaks the covenant is not only in sin, but they have broken the heart of God, the heart of their spouse, and the hearts of any children involved.  The covenant is a powerful, important issue in the body of Christ and we are ignoring it.

Pastors, teachers, leaders, elders…let’s get back to talking about the COVENANT!!!!!!!!!!