Teaching My Children About Wisdom

Proverbs 8:11

For wisdom is better than rubies; and all the things that may be desired are not to be compared to it.

For the month of August, I decided to direct my attention to the book of Proverbs.  My children and I are reading a chapter per day this month, and we are discussing the necessity of wisdom in everyday life.  I must say I have been pleasantly surprised at how much my children already value common sense, but I want to dig a little bit deeper.

One of my top five favorite theologians of all time is Charles Haddon Spurgeon.  Mr. Spurgeon is called the “Prince of Preachers” among Biblical scholars and rightfully so.  He was an incredible teacher of the Word of God, very passionate about his craft.  Not only was he a preacher, but he was a husband and a father.  Mr. Spurgeon and his wife, Susannah were parents to twin boys, Charles and Thomas.  They had the pressures of not only being the pastor and pastor’s wife of one of the largest churches in London, but they were raising children, dealing with everyday life, watching society crumble around them because of its sin, and they dealt with health and mental issues within the family.  They had a lot with which to contend.

I mention Mr. and Mrs. Spurgeon because one of my favorite parenting quotes came from them.  I have tried to live out this quote, even before I knew the quote existed.  It goes like this:  “Train your child in the way in which you know you should have gone yourself.”  Is that not priceless?  I think often of how much heartache I could have avoided had I been raised with a daily dose of God’s Word.  I think of how the conviction of the Holy Spirit could have come over me before I did some of the stupid things I did if only I had known what the scripture said about those things before I did them.  I think of how I wish I had been taught to pray as a child, so that I could have asked the LORD for guidance before I made some of the stupid decisions I have made in my life.  I think of all the regret I could have avoided if only I had been trained in the way that I and my parents before me should have gone!

Before I go any further, I can imagine that you are reading my statements, thinking that I can never be sure that a different upbringing would have garnered different results.  You are right.  I cannot know what might have been.  I do know, however, that had I had the chance,  I could have leaned on God’s Word for the strength to carry me through certain situations.  Hebrews 4:12 says “For the Word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart.”  The power of God’s Word could have kept me, where my own strength and my own flesh failed me time after time.

God’s Word is wisdom.  It is a discerner of the intentions of every man’s heart.  By filling my children’s minds and hearts with God’s Word every day, they have no choice but to remember what God’s Word says when decisions must be made.  When I teach them that the Word says “Thou shalt not take the Name of the LORD thy God in vain; for the LORD will not hold him guiltless that taketh His Name in vain…” (Exodus 20:7), then they will think twice before they use His Name as a slang word or a swear word.  The conviction that comes over them is so great that even when they hear someone else use the LORD’s Name in vain, they cringe.  When I teach them that the Word says “Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor” (Exodus 20:16), they will feel guilty when they try to lie about anything.  The conviction that they feels even gives them a burden for others who feel that they have to lie to others.  The power of God’s Word is keeping them in a way that it did not keep me, because I did not have a steady diet of God’s Word as my daily routine during my developmental years.

I began this practice of teaching my children God’s Word as soon as I got them.  I remember holding my firstborn in my arms during her first week of life, reading the scripture to her as she nursed.  I remember sitting on the floor with her as a toddler, allowing her to rub her little hands over the onion-skin pages of my Bible, teaching her that the words underneath her hands were truth.  I remember taking her to church each Sunday, Bible study during the week, and having daily times of prayer and study each day.  The only times that we did not spend in the word together where times when we were physically apart.

My three youngest are in their early teens.  They have had a steady diet of God’s Word since they were babies also.  I am sometimes surprised at how much of God’s Word they can regurgitate when needed.  That is all because of the power of God’s Word in their lives.  I pray that they will always remember the times that we spent in God’s Word, and that they will spend that kind of time with their children also.  There is no other way to obtain wisdom than to be in the Word daily.

Proverbs 3:7 says “Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the Lord, and depart from evil.” Verse 13 says “Happy is the man that findeth wisdom, and the man that getteth understanding.”  Proverbs 4:5 says “Get wisdom, get understanding: forget it not…”  Verse 7 says “Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.”  Wisdom is the important thing.  Wisdom is the way I know I should have gone myself.  Are you teaching your children to obtain wisdom?


Where Are The Prayer Warriors?

Ephesians 1:15-16

Wherefore I also, after I heard of your faith in the LORD Jesus, and love unto all the saints,  Cease not to give thanks for you, making mention of you in my prayers…

Philippians 1:3-4

I thank my God upon every remembrance of you,  Always in every prayer of mine for you all making request with joy…

Philippians 4:6

Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

Colossians 1:9

For this cause we also, since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you…

Colossians 4:2

Continue in prayer, and watch in the same with thanksgiving…

1 Thessalonians 3:10

Night and day praying exceedingly…

1 Thessalonians 5:17

Pray without ceasing.

2 Thessalonians 1:11

Wherefore also we pray always for you…

1 Timothy 2:8

I will therefore that men pray every where, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting.

2 Timothy 1:3

…without ceasing I have remembrance of thee in my prayers night and day…

Philemon 1:4

I thank my God, making mention of thee always in my prayers..

As I was meditating on God’s Word, my mind began to wander back to my early years.  I remember some of the miraculous things that I have seen in my lifetime.  I know that the only way these things could have possibly happened is by the hand of God.  I remember, however, that as I was growing up, I watched my grandmother spend a lot of time in prayer.  I believe the only reason she survived much of what she endured was because my grandmother was a prayer warrior.

God saw my grandmother through the death of her husband when he was only 43 years old.  She lived 54 years after his death.  She was a single mother to six children.  God did the miraculous in her life, and He provided for her beyond measure after her husband’s death.  My grandmother was a prayer warrior.

One of my grandmother’s children was afflicted with a disease that we don’t hear much about anymore:  rocky mountain spotted fever.  He was in the hospital with a temperature of 107 degrees.  His temperature was so high, she said, that it burned off some of his fingerprints and the creases in the skin on his elbows.  His throat and esophagus were affected, so much so that even today, he has to clear his throat by stretching it several times a day.  There was no technology such as we have today to treat him; my grandmother had to trust the LORD for her child’s healing.  She prayed for him because my grandmother was a prayer warrior.

The same son who survived the fever was burned by a hot radiator from his car many years later.  The radiator exploded and the hot water spilled all over his shirt, melting the shirt onto his skin.  We saw him running across the yard pulling the shirt over his head, which was a dangerous thing to do.  He was in the hospital for a while, and he had to have skin grafts to cover the places where the skin was torn off from his ripping off the shirt.  He survived…because my grandmother was praying for him.  My grandmother was a prayer warrior.

My grandmother’s youngest son was killed in the war.  She often told the story of how they sent his body back to the United States in a sealed coffin.  She told them she wanted to see his body, but her other children discouraged that, explaining to her that she did not want to see him that way.  His body had been torn apart by explosives.  All she knew was that her child was in that box, and she wanted to see his face one more time.  She said she let it go, but she was not happy about it.  I think for many years she was angry with the military for her son’s death.  It broke her heart that he was gone because he shared with her that when he came back home, he wanted to go into ministry.  I think she was proud of that.  She survived her son’s death, however, because my grandmother was a prayer warrior.

I remember the night my grandmother got the news that two of my first cousins were murdered alongside a highway near their home.  They were teenagers at the time, and the murder was brutal.  No one has ever been arrested or convicted in their murder.   My family doesn’t believe that the investigation continued long after their deaths.  My grandmother’s heart was broken.  She dealt with two of her grandsons being murdered at the same time, in what my family believes was a lynching.  She carried that heartbreak to her grave:  but she lived a productive life for many years after that, because my grandmother was a prayer warrior.

My grandmother was the granddaughter of a slave, and the daughter of a sharecropper.  She was the third of twelve children.  I remember many times how she shared with me the story of how she had to quit school in the third grade to care for the younger children so that her parents and her two older siblings could work the farm.  That was the only way that her parents could provide for their children.  My grandmother could not read; she had only a third grade education.  She did learn how to sign her name, but she could not write.  She used to make me write letters for her to her long distance relatives.  I hated it!  Now, I understand and I am ashamed of how much I hated writing those letters.  Regardless of how much I hated writing those letters, my grandmother did not let up.  She dictated what she wanted written and I wrote it.  I am glad today that she made me write those letters.  It is a blessing to me to think back about how I was a blessing to her.  She taught me to pray.  She taught me who Jesus is.  She encouraged a love for God’s Word in me because she could quote the scriptures even though she could not read a word.  I had a drug problem:  she “drug” me to church every Sunday!  We went to Sunday School, preaching service, Wednesday night prayer meetings, BTU (Baptist Training Union), CTU (Church Training Union), Saturday choir rehearsal, and Sunday evening service.  She taught me to love the LORD, the Word, and the church.  She could influence me that way because she was a prayer warrior.

Where are the prayer warriors today?  No one wants to pray.  No one wants to labor on their knees before the LORD and repent of their sin.  No one wants to bring their problems and needs and hurts and disappointments and cares and burdens to the LORD on a consistent basis without giving up.  No one prays anymore.  Where are the prayer warriors?

We don’t pray like we used to…and that’s why I listed the scriptures above to remind us that we need to pray more.  I need to pray more.  My children need to pray more.  God said in His Word in 2 Chronicles 7:14, “If MY people, which are called by MY Name, shall humble themselves and pray…”  That’s part of the problem, I think.  We really don’t want to humble ourselves.  If we want God to do something in this wicked world we live in, we better get back on our knees.  2 Chronicles 7:14 goes on to say, “…then will I hear from heaven, forgive their sins, and heal their land.”  Nothing happens without prayer.

Calling all prayer warriors!!!

Here I Go Again…

Genesis 2:24

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Matthew 19:5-6

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?  Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Mark 10:8

And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.

If you have read any of my writing on this blog, you know that I am passionate about a few things:  protection for the unborn, foster care and adoption for orphans, America’s allegiance to Israel, and God’s plan for marriage.  These are the things that matter most to me in life, as I believe these are the things that are most important to God.

I come to this blog sometimes when my heart is burdened, as is the case today.  I got news of another marriage that has been broken by sin.  It pains me so deeply when I hear of two people who made a covenant with God and each other, and take that covenant so lightly.

Over the past couple of years, I have meditated on God’s Word as it pertains to marriage in a way that I had not done before.  Genesis 2:24 is quite clear when it says that “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” When a man “leaves” his father and mother, he is still a part of his family of origin, but he is embarking on a new phase of life, and he is building a family of his own.  No longer is he under the headship of the parents who bore and raised him.  He is now becoming a man who is the head of his own home.  His family of origin now becomes his extended family, and the family that he is building is his immediate family.  They are his first priority and they get the bulk of his attention.  He is to “..cleave unto his wife…”  Marriage is a sacred bond like no other bond under heaven.  There is a closeness that is developed in marriage that affects the husband and the wife as no other relationship ever can or ever will.  The man who is married is to cling to that relationship with all of his might.  The only relationship on the earth more important to him than the one with his wife is the relationship that he has with his Savior.  “…And they shall be one flesh…” seals the deal.  When two people are married, they consummate the relationship and nothing nor anyone is to come between those two persons, because as far as God is concerned, they are one person.  When God sees one, He sees the other.

Matthew 19:6 goes on to say “What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”  No one, including the persons who made the covenant, are to come between the vows that were made to each other and to God.  I think sometimes we as Christians forget what a covenant is.  I have covered that several times in this blog, but I will briefly say that God made a covenant to Abraham; a covenant which has never been and will never be broken.  In Genesis 12, God makes a seven-part promise to Abraham, which is still in effect, even at this very moment:  “And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing:  And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.”  God made the covenant with Abraham probably more than 3000 years ago, and that covenant is still in effect.  I wonder was He modeling for us what He expects when we make a covenant?

To my original point, my heart is broken for the marriages that I know about that have gone through separation and/or divorce.  Sometimes I read about celebrities who separate and divorce and that hurts my heart also.  I know marriage is spiritual, and anyone who does not know the LORD Jesus Christ does not understand that, but it still pains me to think of the children that could be involved, or just the scars that will be left in the hearts of the persons who married and walked away from the marriage.  The wounds of divorce are deep and they NEVER go away.  I know from personal experience because each day when I look into the eyes of my own children, I hurt for them.

If you are married, and you think your marriage may be in trouble, seek the LORD and Godly counsel to help you work through whatever the problem may be.  God is able.  He is willing to help you if you will put your trust in Him.  God loves His children.  He wants to see the marriages within the body of Christ thrive and represent His love for His bride, the church.  If only we would seek Him…

My Tribute to Baby Charlie Gard and His Faithful Parents

I am stunned…there are no words.

Baby Charlie Gard’s parents end legal fight: Read their full heartbreaking statement

Patrick B. Craine

LONDON, July 24, 2017 (LifeSiteNews) – Baby Charlie Gard’s parents made a heartbreaking statement in court today as they announced they were ending their legal fight to give their 11-month-old a chance at life.

The statement included a stinging rebuke of London’s Great Ormond Street Hospital, which refused to allow Charlie’s transfer for experimental treatment.

“Had Charlie been given the treatment sooner he would have had the potential to be a normal, healthy little boy,” said the statement from Chris Gard and Connie Yates, read by Connie in court this morning.

They insisted, based on consultation with U.S. expert Dr. Michio Hirano, that Charlie had normal brain function in January and could have largely recovered. But, they say, the hospital wasted precious months fighting them in court while Charlie’s muscles deteriorated to the point that treatment was no longer possible.

“There is one simple reason for Charlie’s muscles deteriorating to the extent they are in now – TIME. A whole lot of wasted time,” they said.

“This is one of the hardest things that we will ever have to say and we are about to do the hardest thing that we’ll ever have to do which is to let our beautiful little Charlie go.”

The last 11 nearly 12 months have been the best, the worst and ultimately life changing months of our lives but Charlie is Charlie and we wouldn’t change him for the world. All our efforts have been for him.

This is one of the hardest things that we will ever have to say and we are about to do the hardest thing that we’ll ever have to do which is to let our beautiful little Charlie go.

Put simply, this is about a sweet, gorgeous, innocent little boy who was born with a rare disease, who had a real, genuine chance at life and a family who love him so very dearly and that’s why we fought so hard for him.

We are truly devastated to say that following the most recent MRI scan of Charlie’s muscles, as requested in the recent MDT meeting by Dr Hirano; as Charlie’s devoted and loving parents we have decided that it’s no longer in Charlie’s best interests to pursue treatment and we will let our son go and be with the angels.

The American and Italian team were still willing to treat Charlie after seeing both his recent brain MRI and EEG performed last week. He’s not brain dead (and never has been). He still responds to us, even now, but after reviewing the recent muscle MRI it was considered that Charlie’s muscles have deteriorated to the extent that it is largely irreversible and, were treatment to work, his quality of life would now not be one which we would want for our precious little boy. They both agreed that treatment should have been started sooner.

There is one simple reason for Charlie’s muscles deteriorating to the extent they are in now – TIME. A whole lot of wasted time. Had Charlie been given the treatment sooner he would have had the potential to be a normal, healthy little boy.

His muscles were in pretty good shape in January, although obviously weaker than a child of similar age, and his brain scan was that of a relatively normal child of his age. He may well have had some disabilities later on in life but his quality of life could have been improved greatly.

The reason that treatment was not commenced in January or April this year was that Charlie was found to have ‘irreversible brain damage’ and treatment was considered as ‘futile’. Dr Hirano and Dr Bertini, together with other internationally renowned paediatric neurologists have now reviewed Charlie’s MRI’s and EEG’s which were performed in January and April respectively and they have confirmed that these MRI’s and EEG’s showed NO actual evidence of irreversible brain damage.

Unfortunately Professor Hirano did not have access to the raw data and he based what he said in April on reports. We did not have access to these second opinions before the initial trial, hence why we are where we are today. Had we had the opportunity to have raw data of the MRIs and EEGs independently reviewed, we are convinced Charlie would be on treatment now and improving all the time.

However, we are now in July and our poor boy has been left to just lie in hospital for months without any treatment whilst lengthy court battles have been fought. We have been told time and time again that Charlie has a ‘progressive disease’ but rather than allow treatment for him with a medication that was widely accepted to have no side effects, Charlie has been left with his illness to deteriorate, sadly, to the point of no return.

We would like to say a few words in the hope that Charlie’s life will not be in vain.

We have always acted in our son’s best interests from the very beginning. We were told back in November that all his organs would fail and it was likely that we only had days left with him but to this day aside from Charlie’s need for ventilation not one organ has ‘failed’.

We have always been led by Charlie. I promise every single one of you that we would not have fought this hard for our son if we thought that he was in pain or suffering.

There has never been any proof that he was and we still don’t think that he’s in pain or suffering to this day. Having said that, we have decided to let our son go and that’s for one reason and one reason only. It is because the prospect of improvement is unfortunately now too low for Charlie.

Our doctors in America and Italy were still willing to treat Charlie after reviewing the MRI head scan from July 2017 as they still felt that there was a chance of meaningful improvement in Charlie’s brain. However, due to the deterioration in his muscles, there is now no way back for Charlie. Time that has been wasted. It is time that has sadly gone against him.

We now have 7 experts supporting therapy for Charlie’s condition which I think is proof that it was more than reasonable to try it. Nucleosides are simply a powder that would’ve gone into Charlie’s milk and are compounds which all of us in this room produce naturally.

Unfortunately, Charlie can’t produce these due to his disease, which is why he is the way he is. We want people to realise that we have been speaking to parents whose children were just like Charlie before starting treatment and now some of them are walking around like normal children. We wanted Charlie to have that chance too.

Our son has an extremely rare disease for which there is no accepted cure but that does not mean that this treatment would not have worked, and it certainly does not mean that this shouldn’t have been tried. We have only been asking for a 3 month trial of treatment to see if there was any improvement.

We have been asking for this short trial for the past 8 months. Charlie did have a real chance of getting better if only therapy was started sooner. It was never false hope as confirmed by many experts.

Now we will never know what would have happened if he got treatment but it’s not about us. It’s never been about us. It’s about what’s best for Charlie now. At the point in time when it has become too late for Charlie we have made the agonising decision to let him go.

This has also never been about ‘parents know best’. We have continuously listened to experts in this field and it has raised fundamental issues, ethically, legally and medically – this is why the story of one little boy from two normal everyday people has raised such conflicting opinions and ferocious arguments worldwide.

All we wanted to do was take Charlie from one world renowned hospital to another world renowned hospital in the attempt to save his life and to be treated by the world leader in mitochondrial disease. We feel that we should have been trusted as parents to do so but we will always know in our hearts that we did the very best for Charlie and I hope that he is proud of us for fighting his corner.

We will have to live with the ‘what if’s’ which will haunt us for the rest of our lives but we’re thinking about what’s best for our son. We have always believed that Charlie deserved a chance at life and we knew that his brain was not as bad it was made out to be and that’s why we continued.

We completely understand that everyone is entitled to their opinion and this was always going to be a matter which would cause a huge debate in who’s right and who’s wrong. In truth, there are no winners here.

One thing is for sure though. We know deep within our hearts that we have always had Charlie’s best interests in the forefront of our minds and despite what some people think of us, we will try to walk away from this with our heads held high. As I said, we know the truth, and in our hearts we know that we have done all of this for our darling little Charlie. We have never done this for selfish reasons. We didn’t keep him alive just because we couldn’t bear to lose him.

Charlie had a real chance of getting better. It’s now unfortunately too late for him but it’s not too late for others with this horrible disease and other diseases. We will continue to help and support families of ill children and try and make Charlie live on in the lives of others. We owe it to him to not let his life be in vain.

We would like to thank our current legal team who have worked tirelessly to try and save Charlie’s life and they have not asked for a single penny. They won’t even let us buy them a coffee. They have done it out of the kindness of their hearts because they believed in us and they certainly believed in Charlie.

We would like to thank everybody who has supported us throughout this journey in this country and thousands of people worldwide and we also would like to thank the staff at GOSH who have looked after Charlie and kept him comfortable and stable for so long. The care he has received from the nurses who’ve cared for him has been second to none. But most of all, we would like to thank Charlie for the joy he has brought to our lives. The love we have for you is too much for words and we love you so very much.

Despite the way that our beautiful son has been spoken about sometimes, as if he not worthy of a chance at life, our son is an absolute WARRIOR and we could not be prouder of him and we will miss him terribly. One little boy has brought the world together and whatever people’s opinions are, no one can deny the impact our beautiful son has had on the world and his legacy will never ever die.

Charlie has had a greater impact on and touched more people in this world in his 11 months than many people do in a life time. We could not have more love and pride for our beautiful boy.

His body, heart and soul may soon be gone, but his spirit will live on for eternity and he will make a difference to people’s lives for years to come.

As his mum and dad, we will make sure of that. We owe that to our boy. We will do our utmost to ensure that no parents have to go through what we have been through and the next Charlie that comes along WILL get this medicine before it’s too late and Charlie will save many more lives in the future, no doubt about that.

We are struggling to find any comfort or peace with all this, but one thing that does give us the slightest bit of comfort, is that we truly believe that Charlie may have been too special for this cruel world.

We are now going to spend our last precious moments with our son Charlie, who unfortunately won’t make his 1st birthday in just under 2 weeks’ time, and we would ask that our privacy is respected at this very difficult time.

Mummy and Daddy love you so much Charlie, we always have and we always will and we are so sorry that we couldn’t save you.

Sweet dreams baby. Sleep tight our beautiful little boy.

Charlie Matthew William Gard

Our hero.

Charles Spurgeon’s “Morning and Evening”

July 21, 2017

“Why go I mourning?”
Psalm 42:9

Canst thou answer this, believer? Canst thou find any reason why thou art so often mourning instead of rejoicing? Why yield to gloomy anticipations? Who told thee that the night would never end in day? Who told thee that the sea of circumstances would ebb out till there should be nothing left but long leagues of the mud of horrible poverty? Who told thee that the winter of thy discontent would proceed from frost to frost, from snow, and ice, and hail, to deeper snow, and yet more heavy tempest of despair? Knowest thou not that day follows night, that flood comes after ebb, that spring and summer succeed winter? Hope thou then! Hope thou ever! For God fails thee not. Dost thou not know that thy God loves thee in the midst of all this? Mountains, when in darkness hidden, are as real as in day, and God’s love is as true to thee now as it was in thy brightest moments. No father chastens always: thy Lord hates the rod as much as thou dost; He only cares to use it for that reason which should make thee willing to receive it, namely, that it works thy lasting good. Thou shalt yet climb Jacob’s ladder with the angels, and behold Him who sits at the top of it–thy covenant God. Thou shalt yet, amidst the splendours of eternity, forget the trials of time, or only remember them to bless the God Who led thee through them, and wrought thy lasting good by them. Come, sing in the midst of tribulation. Rejoice even while passing through the furnace. Make the wilderness to blossom like the rose! Cause the desert to ring with thine exulting joys, for these light afflictions will soon be over, and then “forever with the LORD,” thy bliss shall never wane.

“Faint not nor fear, His arms are near,

He changeth not, and thou art dear;

Only believe and thou shalt see,

That Christ is all in all to thee.”

Pornography: The Death of Marriage

Psalm 101:3

I will set no wicked thing before mine eyes: I hate the work of them that turn aside; it shall not cleave to me.

2 Peter 2:13-15

And shall receive the reward of unrighteousness, as they that count it pleasure to riot in the day time. Spots they are and blemishes, sporting themselves with their own deceivings while they feast with you;

Having eyes full of adultery, and that cannot cease from sin; beguiling unstable souls: an heart they have exercised with covetous practices; cursed children:

Which have forsaken the right way, and are gone astray, following the way of Balaam the son of Besor, who loved the wages of unrighteousness…

I saw this article on my Twitter timeline.  I thought it would be worth posting on my blog.  It hits home for me because I lived this scenario since 2007.  I am in the process of putting together a plan to support other women who are dealing with this issue.  I even hope to reach out to the victim in this article and see if she would be willing to at least support my efforts.  If you are a woman who is going through this, please comment at the end of the article.  I would love to talk to you and encourage you as you seek healing and restoration in your life.

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Chris Rock: I was addicted to porn and it destroyed my marriage

June 19, 2017 (LifeSiteNews) – Pornography addiction played a role in Chris Rock’s marriage falling apart, he revealed on a comedy tour this spring.

Fight the New Drug (FTND) and Inquisitr both reported on the celebrity’s remarks. Recordings weren’t allowed at the show, but Inquisitir relayed that Rock “open[ed] his soul to the sold-out crowd.”

Rock said his pornography use constantly made him 15 minutes late, unable to look people in the eye, and unable to pick up on basic social cues. In addition to using pornography, he cheated on his wife of 16 years with other women several times, too.

Since then, Rock has gone to therapy to treat his addiction.

Rock also used his comedy show to discuss how hard on his family his divorce was. Inquisitir said there was “glistening pain” in Rock’s eyes as he “asked the crowd not to applaud his divorce.”

“Rock described the destructive effect of his pornography addiction” for a moment in his otherwise light-hearted show, The New Orleans Advocate reported.

“While we don’t know the details of his struggle or of his personal life, Rock was bold enough to lay his experiences out for all to see, and though he might not have said that porn was the reason his marriage ended, he made it clear that it was a contributing factor,” wrote FTND. “And his situation would be in good company, seeing as pornography can double a marriage’s chances for ending in divorce.”

British comedian Russell Brand has also publicly condemned pornography.

“Once that biological drive to procreate is connected to a culture of objectification, it’s a very hard equation to break,” Brand said in a famous rant about how pornography distorts perceptions of sex and sexuality. “If you’re constantly bombarded by great waves of filth, it’s really difficult to remain connected to the truth.”

What Does God Say About Women in the Pulpit?

1 Corinthians 14:34-35

Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience as also saith the law.  And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.

1 Timothy 2:11-14

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.  But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.   For Adam was first formed, then Eve.  And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.

1 Timothy 3:2

A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach…

Titus 1:6-7

If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.  For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre…

As I read through these passages of scripture, I am tempted to let them stand alone as my blog post, for there is absolutely nothing that I can add to these words to make them any more resounding.  God’s Word says what it means, and means what it says.   I will, however, succumb to the temptation to jump up and down and scream at the top of my lungs that women are not permitted to take an authoritative position in the church of Jesus Christ.

I read an article today on my Twitter feed about a well known female who calls herself a preacher, and how she was honored with several doctorate degrees from several different universities that take liberties with God’s Word just as she does.  Because of these “honors”, she has attached the letters “Dr.” to the front of her name.  I laughed when I began to read the heresy that comes out of the universities that bestowed this “honor” upon her, and I thought, well…there was nothing else that they could do but give her an “honorary” doctorate to go along with her high school diploma!  But I digress…

This particular woman has been calling herself a preacher now for a couple of decades, I guess.  She has traveled the world and is a household name amongst staunch charismatics.  I have even heard her defend her place in the pulpit, claiming that God anointed her for what she does.  It had to be God, I’ve heard her say.  My question is this: what does God’s Word say about women in the pulpit?

1 Corinthians 14:34-35

Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience as also saith the law.  And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.

God’s design from the very beginning was for women to lovingly submit to the loving leadership of men.  God told the woman in Genesis 3:16 “…thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.”  When women decide to usurp a role that God did not intend for them, what ultimately happens is that they fall into other ungodly, unbiblical practices as well.  If you look closely at the charismatic movement in the United States today, you will see that it is riddled with women in leadership positions, and there is rampant sin running through its churches and families.

This is not to say that there are not intelligent, talented, gifted women within the body of Christ.  Many women that I know personally have spent more time studying God’s Word, and can explain it better and more clearly than most men I know!  However, God’s plan is not for women to take an authoritative position within the church.  Anyone who handles God’s Word within God’s church is taking an authoritative role, and that role is solely and distinctly set aside in God’s Word for men, and men only.  God has designed an order for His church, and when that order is disrupted, the church becomes weak and God is dishonored.  In my personal opinion, I believe this is one of the reasons that the church is so ineffective in its witness to the world.  The gender roles have been skewed so much so that we look just like the world.

1 Timothy 2:11-14

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.  But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.   For Adam was first formed, then Eve.  And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.

Paul continues to stress what he taught the church at Corinth about gender roles.  This time, however, the situation was dire.  Here, Paul is explaining to Timothy, who was of Greek heritage, God’s instruction for women.  Timothy obviously knew how dire the situation was for Greek women.  Historians record that respectable Greek women lived a very sheltered life, rarely even being seen in public, and certainly not being seen alone. Greek women lived in their own quarters, and no one was allowed in those quarters except their husbands.  This suppression brought out a strong reaction from the women in Ephesus, and they took it too far by demanding to be heard in the public worship services.  Paul explained that they did have the right to learn, but they did not have the right to teach.

This does not mean that women are not spiritually equal to men.  (Deuteronomy 1:1, 16:9-15, Exodus 12:3, 21:28-32, Numbers 36:1-12)  Women were allowed to participate in spiritual service (Exodus 38:8, Nehemiah 7:67) and sometimes, the LORD chose to deal with women directly (Genesis 3:13, 16:7-13, Judges 13:3).

Just because men and women are equal spiritually does mean that they have the same roles.  God designed male headship in the home, (Genesis 3:16) and it only makes sense to me that if the male has the leadership role in the privacy of his home, why would he not have it in the public worship?

Paul also points out to Timothy that the woman was created for the man, and not the other way around.  The man was created (Genesis 2:7), and then God placed him in a deep sleep, took a rib (Genesis 2:21), and made a woman to be a mate for the man (Genesis 2:22).  The woman was the one who was deceived by the serpent (Genesis 3:1-6), because the woman, more than the man, follows her emotion.  On the other hand, the man, whom God placed in leadership position, follows his rationale.

1 Timothy 3:2

A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach…

This verse speaks for itself.  As we draw closer to the time that the LORD will return, we see more and more gender roles skewed, so much so that I think society is trying to erase gender altogether.  God, however, will not erase gender.  Genesis 1:27 says “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created He him; male and female created He them.”  Regardless of how many people have surgery to change their designated gender parts to the opposite gender, God only recognizes the gender assignment that He has given to each of us.  I remember a few years ago, a very famous singer’s daughter had surgery to change herself into a man.  She even wrote a book about how difficult the transformation was.  Well, of course it was difficult!  She was taking what God created, trying to change it into what she wanted it to be.  As much as she may think that now she is a man, when she stands before God, she will still be that little girl who was born to a very famous singer and her husband.

I said all that to get to the point made in this verse.  In church leadership, if a man is called to such a position, he must be blameless, meaning that no true accusations can be made against him, and he must be the husband of one wife.  Regardless of how many men think they are marrying other men, or how many women think they are changing their gender, only men that God created as men can be husbands.  Only men that God created as men can marry women that God created as women.  Those are the husbands to which this verse is referring.  (Whew!  You know the world is in bad shape when you have to explain all of that!)  If the leader of the church is to be the husband of one wife, then he has to be a man.  That is the point that I and this verse are trying to make.  Leadership is designated to males, period.

Titus 1:6-7

If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.  For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre…

Titus takes the Timothy 3 verse a step further.  Paul explains to Titus that not only should this man be the husband of one wife, but he must have children who know how to behave.  His children cannot be the ones who are on the news for robbing a bank, or beating up their girlfriends, or being caught with drugs in their possession.  The leader must be a father who has trained his children properly, and that training is evident in the behaviors that they demonstrate in public.  What they do in private will definitely manifest itself in the public worship.

These verses all point to male leadership.  I so desperately try to stress this to my friends who are still attending churches where women are in the pulpit.  I want to help them to understand that partial obedience is total disobedience, and if we willingly err in one point of God’s law, we have broken it all.  We cannot decide which points we want to obey and which ones that we want to ignore.  God is going to judge us on what we did with all of His instruction.

If you are in a church where women are pastors, preachers, teachers, leaders, or in any kind of center stage ministry, I would advise you to begin this Sunday visiting other churches where there are no women in pulpit ministry.  The church where women are in leadership are churches where sin is running rampant.  They are churches where sin is excused and covered up and ignored.  They are churches that will not be pleasing to the LORD when He returns.

What does God’s Word say about women in the pulpit?  It says that women do not belong there.  Period.