What Do You Say When Someone Loses A Loved One…

Psalm 116:15

Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of His saints.

Last week, one of my co-workers experienced the unexpected death of a close family member.  He shared with me that he was on his way to work and got the text that no one wants to get.  Another family member texted and said, “Call me as soon as you can.”

We chatted about what happened to the relative, how the family is dealing with the news, and all that goes into settling one’s estate after an unexpected passing.  He did most of the talking, I did most of the listening, and am I ever glad it happened that way.  I was at a loss for what to say.

What do you say to someone that you genuinely care about who is grieving such an tremendous loss?  How do you make them feel better?  What are the rules of etiquette regarding conversations after a person passes away?

I personally have no idea.  I think that sometimes people just want to be heard, to have their feelings and their thoughts validated.  I tried to do that for my coworker.  I tried to give him the time and the space to let it all out.

I may never know how to answer the question about what to say to someone who is grieving.  But I do know the One Who can console the hearts of those who are grieving.  He says the death of His saints is precious in His sight.  I am so glad to know that He cares about every aspect of life.

2 Replies to “What Do You Say When Someone Loses A Loved One…”

  1. Nancy Guthrie wrote a lovely book. “What Grieving People Wish You Knew about What Really Helps (and What Really Hurts)” I found it very helpful and well-written. Listening really is one of the best gifts, just as you mentioned. 😊 Glad you were there for your co-worker.

    1. Thank you for your kind words. I think that is exactly what my co worker needed because not only did he suffer the loss, but there were so many politics going on at work and he was on the receiving end of a lot of vitriol at the time. I praise God that I happened to be in the right place to be used at that time. Thank you again.

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