Keep thy heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life.
Today I read an article online that announced Walmart’s decision to no longer carry the Cosmopolitan magazine at their checkout counters. Apparently, there was some pressure for Walmart to make this decision coming from a conservative “watchdog” group who had been after Walmart for a long time about some of the magazines that they force their customers to endure at the checkout. As the mother of an 11-year-old son and the estranged wife of a porn addict, I can tell you that this news is like music to my ears. I get so tired of my son having to be exposed to pornographic garbage every time we go someplace as seemingly innocent as the grocery store.
What most people do not understand about these images (and most do not care) is that once these images are taken into a man’s eyes long enough, they are seared into his brain so much so that they affect his decision making through out his life. My estranged husband was introduced to porn 53 years ago, and has struggled with it ever since. Not only is it an addiction that he cannot conquer, but it has been such a burden on his soul that he does not have any healthy relationships with family or friends due to the fact that he is ashamed of who he is when he is alone. He is trapped in his sin, and I am doggedly determined that my son will not suffer that same fate.
Pornography is a dangerous thing. It destroys lives, minds, hearts, relationships, marriages and families. I know this from personal experience, because it destroyed my family. My heart is still broken over discovering my husband in front of our family computer taking in some of the most vile images that I have ever seen. My heart is broken for my children and for our mutual friends who have all had to endure the devastation that has come from the breakup of our marriage. This all happened because my husband’s father allowed his son to be exposed to a pornographic magazine when he was only eight years old.
Proverbs 4:23 says “Keep your heart with all diligence…” I am teaching my son to train his eyes to turn away from images of women who are scantily clad. I am teaching him to train his eyes to turn away from women who are inappropriately dressed. I am teaching my daughters to dress modestly, not only to protect themselves from predators, but to make sure that they are not tempting men to look at them in a manner in which those men should not look at them. I want the young men who marry my daughters to be attracted to the beauty that is within them, and not their externals. I am training my children to guard their hearts, because every issue of life is going to come from the heart.
If you are reading this and you have struggled to break free from pornography, check out the book by Todd Friel and Heath Lambert, “Finally Free: Purity is Possible”. The cycle of guilt and failure will not end until you decide you finally want to be free.