Godly Sorrow vs. Worldly Sorrow

2 Corinthians 7:9-10

Now I rejoice, not that ye were made sorry, but that ye sorrowed to repentance: for ye were made sorry after a Godly manner, that ye might receive damage by us in nothing.  For Godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of:  but the sorrow of the world worketh death.

 I was watching Todd Friel’s television broadcast “Wretched” this morning on NRB Network.  He had a fantastic conversation with Heath Lambert, who I am pretty sure is a Bible teacher on some level.  I am not familiar with Heath Lambert, and have just become familiar with Todd Friel within the last year.  Apparently, these two men have co-authored a book/teaching called “Finally Free”.  The book deals with a common struggle amongst men in the 21st century.  Though the book was geared toward men, I was blessed by it because it helped me to see what I have been thinking over the last seven years in my own situation.  I am so excited about acquiring this book for my own personal library until I thought I would blog about it based on the smidgen of information that was shared on the broadcast this morning.  I mean no copyright infringement on the information that I share;  I only share it because it was on national television, and it was a blessing to me, so I am sure it will bless others…

The gist of the conversation was about Godly sorrow vs. worldly sorrow.  I took some notes on the difference between the two:

1.      Godly sorrow is earnest and lasting.
2 Corinthians 7, describes Godly sorrow, which says that the
offender desires to change weeks, months and years after his sin
has been discovered. Worldly sorrow is an earnest desire to
change—-for a while.  Once the offender realizes that the
consequence is not going to be as bad as he thought, i.e., his
wife is not really going to leave, or he is not really going to lose
his job, then the earnestness goes away.  Godly sorrow is defined
by the offender’s willingness to fight it weeks and months after
being discovered.2.      Godly sorrow leads to an eagerness to clear yourself.
Here, the offender is willing to do whatever he has to do to get
away from the sin.  That usually means telling someone about
the problem.  That way, you are slightly more limited in opport-
unities to make provision for the flesh.  If the offender is not
willing to get rid of the source of their sin (their computer
or their television), then that is not Godly sorrow.

3.      Godly sorrow leads to indignation.
Indignation is hatred over the sin.  If a person pines for the sin,
they do not have the kind of Godly sorrow that leads to true
repentance.  A person can hate the sin because of the
consequences, which is not Godly sorrow.

4.      Godly sorrow leads to alarm.
The offender is fearful because he knows that the Lord was
within His rights to kill him for his sin.  He recognizes God’s

5.      Godly sorrow leads to longing and concern for restoration.
The offender wants to have conversations about the sin to make
sure that every person involved is okay, and that whatever it takes
to heal the relationships, the offender is willing to do that.
Worldly sorrow says what’s the big deal…let’s just move on….ok,
you found out, now get over it!  Worldly sorrow is not willing
to do the hard work that it takes to make what he has done right.
Godly sorrow might mean apologizing more than once for the
offense, if that is what it takes to convince the other person that
the offender is truly repentant.  Godly sorrow desires this…
worldly sorrow does not.

6.      Godly sorrow leads to a desire for justice.
The offender actually embraces the consequence of their sin.
A person who wants to wiggle out of the consequences of their
sin does not have Godly sorrow for their sin.  They want the easy
way out, and that is not Godly sorrow.

If you are a husband who has offended your wife in this manner, or any other manner, you would do well to read and take in these six indicators of whether you have Godly sorrow for your sin.  If you are a wife who has been offended in this manner and your husband has worldly sorrow, my heart is burdened for you because I am walking out what you are living right now.  Be encouraged.  God is faithful, and if you keep the hurt before Him on the altar, He will heal you…

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