Godly Sorrow vs. Worldly Sorrow

2 Corinthians 7:9-10

Now I rejoice, not that ye were made sorry, but that ye sorrowed to repentance: for ye were made sorry after a Godly manner, that ye might receive damage by us in nothing.  For Godly sorrow worketh repentance to salvation not to be repented of:  but the sorrow of the world worketh death.

 I was watching Todd Friel’s television broadcast “Wretched” this morning on NRB Network.  He had a fantastic conversation with Heath Lambert, who I am pretty sure is a Bible teacher on some level.  I am not familiar with Heath Lambert, and have just become familiar with Todd Friel within the last year.  Apparently, these two men have co-authored a book/teaching called “Finally Free”.  The book deals with a common struggle amongst men in the 21st century.  Though the book was geared toward men, I was blessed by it because it helped me to see what I have been thinking over the last seven years in my own situation.  I am so excited about acquiring this book for my own personal library until I thought I would blog about it based on the smidgen of information that was shared on the broadcast this morning.  I mean no copyright infringement on the information that I share;  I only share it because it was on national television, and it was a blessing to me, so I am sure it will bless others…

The gist of the conversation was about Godly sorrow vs. worldly sorrow.  I took some notes on the difference between the two:

1.      Godly sorrow is earnest and lasting.
2 Corinthians 7, describes Godly sorrow, which says that the
offender desires to change weeks, months and years after his sin
has been discovered. Worldly sorrow is an earnest desire to
change—-for a while.  Once the offender realizes that the
consequence is not going to be as bad as he thought, i.e., his
wife is not really going to leave, or he is not really going to lose
his job, then the earnestness goes away.  Godly sorrow is defined
by the offender’s willingness to fight it weeks and months after
being discovered.2.      Godly sorrow leads to an eagerness to clear yourself.
Here, the offender is willing to do whatever he has to do to get
away from the sin.  That usually means telling someone about
the problem.  That way, you are slightly more limited in opport-
unities to make provision for the flesh.  If the offender is not
willing to get rid of the source of their sin (their computer
or their television), then that is not Godly sorrow.

3.      Godly sorrow leads to indignation.
Indignation is hatred over the sin.  If a person pines for the sin,
they do not have the kind of Godly sorrow that leads to true
repentance.  A person can hate the sin because of the
consequences, which is not Godly sorrow.

4.      Godly sorrow leads to alarm.
The offender is fearful because he knows that the Lord was
within His rights to kill him for his sin.  He recognizes God’s
mercy.

5.      Godly sorrow leads to longing and concern for restoration.
The offender wants to have conversations about the sin to make
sure that every person involved is okay, and that whatever it takes
to heal the relationships, the offender is willing to do that.
Worldly sorrow says what’s the big deal…let’s just move on….ok,
you found out, now get over it!  Worldly sorrow is not willing
to do the hard work that it takes to make what he has done right.
Godly sorrow might mean apologizing more than once for the
offense, if that is what it takes to convince the other person that
the offender is truly repentant.  Godly sorrow desires this…
worldly sorrow does not.

6.      Godly sorrow leads to a desire for justice.
The offender actually embraces the consequence of their sin.
A person who wants to wiggle out of the consequences of their
sin does not have Godly sorrow for their sin.  They want the easy
way out, and that is not Godly sorrow.

If you are a husband who has offended your wife in this manner, or any other manner, you would do well to read and take in these six indicators of whether you have Godly sorrow for your sin.  If you are a wife who has been offended in this manner and your husband has worldly sorrow, my heart is burdened for you because I am walking out what you are living right now.  Be encouraged.  God is faithful, and if you keep the hurt before Him on the altar, He will heal you…

Go Down Moses…

Exodus 3:10-11

Come now therefore, and I will send thee unto Pharaoh, that thou mayest bring forth My people, the children of Israel, out of Egypt.

And Moses said unto God, Who am I, that I should go unto Pharaoh, and that I should bring forth the children of Israel out of Egypt?

So Moses was taking care of his father-in-law Jethro’s sheep.  He had been there for a while because he was on the run from Egypt after having murdered an Egyptian who was harassing an Israelite.  I am sure it had been a comfortable stay with Jethro…I mean, Jethro had insisted that his daughters make Moses feel welcome when he first got there, more than likely as a way to thank Moses for being so kind to them when they were being mistreated at the well.  Not only did Jethro invite Moses to his house, but he gave Moses his daughter, Zipporah, to marry!  That alone probably made the difficult years ahead worth the trouble.

So one day, Moses happens upon a bush that was on fire.  The bush burned, but did not burn up.  Next thing Moses knows, he hears his name coming out of the bush!  “Moses, Moses!” called the voice of God from the bush.  Moses said, “Here I am.”  God told Moses, “Don’t come any closer!  Take your shoes off.  The ground on which you stand is holy ground.”  There is so much meat in that scenario that I do not have time to deal with at this moment, but the one thing that I love about this directive is that God made Moses purify himself by taking his dirty shoes off while standing in the presence of the holy God.  We live in an age where we come into the presence of God in any manner in which we choose.  There is no reverence for God at all…not even in the church.  It appears that the church is the most irreverent of all entities.  It breaks my heart.  I am sure it breaks God’s heart also.

God then proceeds to tell Moses that He knows about the suffering of the Israelites, and because of that, He is going to send Moses to Pharaoh to tell Pharaoh to let the people of Israel go.  I can hear Moses now, in our twenty-first century vernacular saying to God, “Seriously?  Me?  Who am I that I should confront Pharaoh?  And by the way, when I tell the Israelites what is happening, by whose authority should I say this is happening?”  God’s reply was “Tell them ‘I AM THAT I AM’ sent you.”

Moses, being the typical human, didn’t settle for that answer.  His next excuse was, “They are not going to believe me.  They will say that You did not send me.”  God continued to look past Moses’ objections and suggests to him that he has the tools to perform miracles in front of his audience.  I imagine that Moses was desperate by now to come up with a good enough excuse to get out of what God was calling him to do, so he probably said to God, “Ok, here’s the thing.  I am not a good public speaker.  I struggle to get my thoughts together in front of a crowd.  And I stutter.  My tongue gets twisted.  My brain works fast, but my mouth can’t keep up.  I am not a good choice for a spokesperson.”  At this point, if I were God, I would have been annoyed, and I actually detect a note of sarcasm in God’s voice when He says to Moses “Who made your mouth?”  In other words, if I created it, then I can make it work properly!  Verse 14 of this chapter says “And the anger of the Lord was kindled against Moses, and He said, “Is not Aaron the Levite thy brother?  I know that he can speak well.  And also, behold, he cometh forth to meet thee:  and when he seeth thee, he will be glad in his heart.”  Basically, God told Moses that Aaron would be Moses’ spokesperson.

The long and short of this story is that God was so long-suffering with Moses.  Moses gave the God of the universe three excuses as to why he should not be the one who went to Pharaoh to gain the Israelites’ freedom.  Obviously God knew that Moses would try to squirm his way out of it, but He called Moses anyway.  God knew the excuses Moses would come up with, but He called Moses anyway.  God knows the excuses that we will come up with, but He calls us anyway.

Has God called you to a difficult place?  Has He given you a directive that you cannot wrap your mind around?  Do you think that you are the LAST person God should be calling to do the job that you have been given?  Do you look at your shortcomings and think that they will be hindrances?   I am here to tell you that I am the least of anyone that God should call for anything, but He sees what abilities that He has placed in me, and He has called me to glorify Him with those abilities.

I sometimes think like Moses.  I think that I am not the one that anyone is going to believe.  As a matter of fact, I remember a few years ago when God called me to lead a group of ladies in a Bible study.  Every lady in the group was old enough to be my mother.  I thought, God, these women do not want to hear from me!  God, in His lovingkindness, ignored my objections, placed me in that group, and blessed me so abundantly with the love and support of the ladies in my group.  Sometimes I think that my speech is not “good enough”.  I am sometimes self-conscious because, since I have been out of the workforce for thirteen years now, I feel that my vocabulary has suffered.  I think that sometimes I stumble over my words, and that is not a good feeling.  I have, however, noticed how God uses my mouth when He gives me a message to deliver.  I remember once in the doctor’s office, when the Lord laid it at my charge to witness to one of the office staff.  Normally, I would have gotten nervous and my thoughts would have been all jumbled up, but God gave me clear verbalization of His truth and used my mouth to deliver that truth that morning, to a woman who was raised in the Hindu religion.  God had prepared her heart for what He would say through me, even though in my flesh, I felt so unworthy to even speak His Name.

All that said, I want to encourage every Moses out there that God has an Aaron for you.  He will speak through you, or he will use you as He speaks through another mouthpiece, but the point is that you cannot allow yourself to not be “usable” because of your own selfish, prideful excuses.  God made your mouth.  God made you!  He equips everyone that He calls.  If He has called you, go right up to Pharaoh, and say to him definitively, “LET MY PEOPLE GO!”