And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing:
And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.
Genesis 12:3

In today’s society, we rarely use the term “covenant” anymore. You will only hear this word in Christian circles. People do not think of any agreement being unbreakable anymore. Now, everything is done via “contracts”, and needless to say, with a cunning enough lawyer, anyone can get out of a contract. One’s word used to mean that it is as good as done. That is no longer the case. People will as soon lie to each other as breathe.

One of the most important covenants is in dire straits today. That is the covenant of marriage. I have heard it said that the divorce rate in the United States is at fifty percent. I do not know if that number is correct, but I do know that everywhere you turn, people are abandoning their marriages. This is not only true of non-Christians, but it is true of Christians also. Everyone from laypersons to pastors are falling victim to divorce. Marriage is under attack like it has never been in my 40+ year lifetime. Satan is doing all he can to break up the family because he knows that his days are numbered. On the other hand, as believers we trust God to do everything from give us a job to heal our bodies, but we do not trust Him to work out our marital difficulties.

In the western world, we really have the wrong perspective concerning marriage. We get married thinking that this other person will complete us or bring some level of happiness into our lives that cannot be obtained without this other person. The fact is that happiness is fleeting. One moment, a person can be on top of the world, and in the next moment, anything can happen, and that mountaintop experience can seem like it was light years in the past. The only thing that is really lasting is the joy of the Lord….(Nehemiah 8:10)

I looked up the word covenant in the dictionary. Even the dictionary definition does not do the biblical meaning of the word any justice. One definition says that covenant is “the conditional promises made to humanity by God, as revealed in Scripture.” Now, I do not remember God giving Abraham any conditions by which His promise would remain valid. Genesis 12:1-3 says “Now the LORD had said unto Abram, Get thee out of thy country, and from thy kindred, and from thy father’s house, unto a land that I will shew thee:
And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing:
And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.”

Where in those statements do you read that God told Abraham He would do those things IF Abraham did something in return? Nowhere. God’s covenant is unconditional.

The second definition of the word covenant said “the agreement between God and the ancient Israelites, in which God promised to protect them if they kept His law and were faithful to Him.” Once again, nowhere do you read that the Lord told them that they had to be faithful to Him in order for His covenant to remain valid. As a matter of fact, if there had been conditions, then it would not have been a covenant at all, it would have been a contract. The people of Israel would have voided the covenant had it been based on their faithfulness, because they got tired of waiting for Moses and started dancing around a golden calf! As we have already established, man can wrangle his way out of a contract pretty easily, but a covenant is not meant to be broken. That is why God said in Genesis 2:24 “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” When a man decides to “leave” and “cleave”, he is in essence giving his word that this covenant bond of marriage will be forever.

Marriage is under attack today like never before. I can speak from personal experience, because I have gone through trials in my own marriage. I do think, however, that when one really loves the Lord and wants to please Him with their lives and glorify Him in all that they do, one cannot, with a clear conscience, walk away from marriage as if it had never happened. The process of divorce causes a split in one’s soul that cannot be compared to any other loss. Marriage ties the two souls together; divorce tears the souls apart. It does not matter how amicable a couple thinks their divorce is, the fact is that they have split the soul.

How can the body of Christ stop this epidemic from spreading any further? There are a few things that we need to learn to work on in order to save our marriages. First, we need to learn to forgive. When two people marry, each one needs to realize that they are marrying another sinful person. That person is as imperfect as they are, and there are going to be times when they make mistakes. Each person will fall short of the other’s expectations from time to time. But God is faithful, and He can bring restoration and healing to any situation if one or both parties have a heart that is good soil.

We also need to learn submission. A man or a woman who is not willing to submit to the headship of Christ is not going to submit to a spouse. Submission, by the way, is not just for wives. Husbands need to learn the art of dying to their flesh for the sake of their wives, which will bring harmony back into the home. When he shows her that he is willing to do what is necessary, she enjoys a sense of peace and security, which colors all that she does in and outside of the home.

There is so much that I could say about covenant. The main point that I want to make is that covenant is unbreakable. Covenant is lasting. Covenant is forever.

God’s covenant with Israel is still in effect today. I know that many think that the church has replaced Israel, and that God has rejected her because she has rejected Him, but that is not the case. God is still blessing those who bless Israel, and He will still curse those who curse Israel. His covenant is everlasing. It will never be broken.

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