Abstinence or Safe Sex; Let’s Let God Decide!

1 Thessalonians 4:3

“For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication…”


Acts 15:20

“But that we write unto them, that they abstain from pollutions of idols, and from fornication,…”


1 Corinthians 6:13

“…Now the body is not for fornication, but for the Lord; and the Lord for the body.”


1 Corinthians 6:18

“Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that commiteth fornication sinneth against his own body.”


I see commercials on television all the time promoting “safe sex”. Based on the scriptures I have listed above, what exactly would you call safe sex? I call it sex between a husband and a wife who are in a faithful, committed relationship. The secular media and the world at large want to make this next generation that is coming along behind us think that it is ok to sleep with persons to whom they are not married as long as they are using some sort of “protection”. Well, I am here to announce that there is no protection outside of God’s ordinance. He laid out the plan in His Word, and anyone who violates it runs the risk of exposing himself or herself to the consequences that may come from having sex outside of marriage.


I heard a statistic recently that said that as many as 67% of all the babies being born these days are born to single mothers. This means that only 33% of the women who are having babies are married to the fathers prior to their childrens’ births. This leads to dysfunction in the home and society. Children need fathers and mothers to develop mentally, emotionally and spiritually. Not only that, but most of the mothers in that 67% that I mentioned are teenagers! So, a teen mother who does not have a high school diploma, let alone a college degree, gives birth to the child that she conceived out of wedlock, and as soon as the baby is born, she runs downtown to social services and is awarded a handout for her fornication. Now, I know that these children need to be fed and housed. I do, however, think that the government would serve society better if they would encourage these young ladies to abstain from sexual promiscuity until they are able to handle the financial burden that a child can become.


But that is not even the soapbox that I want to get on, even though there are two teen mothers right here in my neighborhood, one of whom I dont think is even dating the father anymore. The other young lady is close to 21 and still gets off of the school bus in front of her house. I’m thinking to myself, “How long is the system going to let this WOMAN go to public school?” My issue today is with the lack of teaching on abstaining from sexual relationships outside of the confines of holy matrimony. There was a lack of teaching in the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah. The sexual sin was so rampant that God called it “grievous” (Genesis 18:20). Much of the sin of Sodom and Gomorrah was homosexual sin, but I am sure that there was heterosexual sin going on there also. It was so bad that God told Abraham that he was going to destroy both cities. Abraham negotiated his nephew’s release from that city, along with his wife and daughters. His wife, however, was bound to that sinful place, and as they were fleeing the city, contrary to God’s instructions, Lot’s wife took one last look. Oh my! That one last look cost her life! God had warned Lot in Genesis 19:17: “Escape for thy life; look not behind thee…” Lot and his family were not to even look back upon the evil from which they were escaping! But what did Mrs. Lot do? She took one last peek. Then it was all over for her. Instantly she became a pillar of salt. Genesis 19:24 says that God rained down “brimstone and fire from the LORD out of heaven…” God is going to rain down fire and brimstone onto this earth very soon because of our rampant sin.


Do not be fooled into thinking that sexual sin is limited to fornicators who commit acts of sin against their bodies by having sex with someone to whom they are not married. Do not think that it is limited to adulterers who commit sexual sin against their marriage partner by having sex with someone outside of the marriage. Sexual sin includes the vile things that we watch on television. Everything on tv nowadays is laced with soft porn. Sexual sin includes the people that we lust after in church and in the mall. Everyone who goes anywhere anytime the temperature reaches 50 degrees or more has to go nearly naked. There is no more “shamefacedness and sobriety” that Paul described in his first letter to Timothy. Even women who profess to know and love the Lord distract others in church these days by the worldly way that they dress. These women incite vexation of spirit in other women and they incite lust in the men by the way that they carry themselves and the way that they dress. Men are guilty also: muscle shirts, tight shirts, or no shirts at all cause even the holiest of women to blush in their presence. I am embarrassed sometimes when I see the way that men dress to cause women to be attracted to them.


And what does all of this add up to? Sexual sin! All of this behavior causes young people of today to throw away whatever godly counsel they have gotten regarding keeping their bodies until they are married. The world sends the message that it is ok to fornicate. It is ok to commit adultery. It is ok to participate in activities that can be construed as sexual as long as no penetration occurs. I am blogging today to announce that this is absolutely not true! Young people: keep your hearts, your minds and your bodies pure of sexual activity of any sort! Keep your eyes away from images that will be seared into your brain for the rest of your life. Stay away from people who will try and lure you to do things that you know you should not do with your bodies! The Bible says that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, and that the Spirit of God dwells in you! If God dwells in you, then keep yourself from sin, which is absolutely opposed to everything that God commands!



This is a great concern of mine since I am a parent. I cannot tell you the countless number of conversations that I have had with my daughter, warning her of the dangers of participating in sexual activity before she is married. I could go on about this for days….I could talk about the soul ties that occur when you are intimate with someone; I could talk about sexually transmitted diseases, some of which are not curable; I have already talked briefly about unplanned pregnancies, and there is the issue of the heartbreak that can occur when one gives himself or herself to someone thinking that they are going to be “the one” only to find out later that person has been with someone else, or is leaving you for someone else. It is the will of God, Paul says in 1st Thessalonians, that you abstain from fornication.  Keep yourself pure! There is no safe sex outside of the confines of a holy, committed marriage relationship between one man and one woman. God has decided: abstinence until marriage.


If you are presently involved in a sexual relationship outside of marriage, there is still hope. God will not abandon you if you cry out to Him in repentance. You must tell him that you know you are a sinner. Jesus came to the earth to die for people just like you. He said in Matthew 9:13 and Luke 5:32, “…I am not come to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.” He also said in Luke 13:3, and 5, “except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.” You must tell Him that you know He is the Savior of the world, and you need for Him to be your Savior. Romans 10:9-10 says “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation.” After you have confessed that He is Savior of the world and asked Him to come into your heart, you need to be baptized. Peter said in Acts 2:38, “Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.” Let Jesus come into your life and remove the sin that is keeping you away from Him and away from eternity in paradise with Him. Don’t let this moment pass without giving your life to the Lord today!

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