Another Pearl of Wisdom…

1 Peter 3:7

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

Husbands, this is not a suggestion. The Lord commands husbands to learn their wives. When I first heard the explanation of this verse, I thought it was phenomenal. As wives, we get so frustrated at being misunderstoood, or simply feeling like our husbands do not try to understand us at all. The Lord goes on to say that understanding and learning your wife helps to get your prayers answered. My, how good would marriages be if every husband thought to himself that the Lord would not answer his prayer if he had not spent any time trying to get to know his wife!


This is not to bash husbands, please understand. But the divorce rate is so high, and there are so many women living in unhappy marriages until something has to be said and something needs to be done. The main thing that needs to happen is that we surrender our will to the Lord Jesus Christ and do everything we can to please Him.


A Pearl of Wisdom…

1 Timothy 2:11-14

Let the woman learn in silence with all subjection.
But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.
For Adam was first formed, then Eve.
And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression.


Ladies, this is not coming from an overbearing man who dislikes your gender.  This direction comes straight from God.  Women need to learn their God-given roles in the church and stay in their own lanes.  They have so much to do already without burdening themselves with something that God did not design for them anyway! 

I am so happy that God made me a woman.  I had the pleasure of experiencing pregnancy, childbirth, rearing children, and now I am looking forward to playing with my grandchildren.  I have had the pleasure of supporting and encouraging my husband, keeping our home as pleasant as possible, and keeping myself appealing to my husband.  I have been nurturer, a counselor, a helpmeet, and a source of comfort.  For those things, I am eternally grateful to God.  Never would I nor should I desire the role that the Lord designed for my husband and the other men that He has called into leadership.

Thank you Lord, for my role as a woman.


In the beginning, God…

Genesis 1:1

In the beginning, GOD created the heavens and the earth.

A couple of months ago, I completed a nine-month study of the book of Genesis.  As I meditated on the majesty and the power of Almighty God, I began to think how wonderful it is that I, worm that I am, have the privilege of being loved and blessed by the God of the universe.  He is the One Who spoke the heavens and the earth into existence, and at the same time, He pays close attention to me.  He is ruler over everything that is and was and will be, and He is keenly aware of all the nuances that are my life.  He knows my thoughts before I think them, He knows my feelings before I feel them.  He knows when a tragedy will strike, or when I will be blessed.  The thought is greater than my mind’s eye has room to comprehend…

In the beginning, God had a plan.  His plan was to create a world and a people who could enjoy the perfection that He had in mind.  He had planned for man to have dominion over every living thing.  He had planned for man to enjoy all the plants that He created.  He gave the world beautiful sunlight to rule over the day and beautiful stars to light up the night sky.  He had a plan in mind.

Unfortunately, man ruined it.  He fell prey to the plan that the enemy had in mind, and he lost his fellowship with the Holy God.  He sinned.  He brought shame upon himself and death into the world.  From that time until this, man has had to deal with the effects of sin and death and the fallen nature that comes in every person born into this world.

In the beginning, God knew that man would sin.  He knew that man would need a Savior to come into the world and reconcile him back to God.  God knew that man would go after his own way, and that he would not have the means to restore himself back to God.  God knew, even back in the beginning.

Thank God for Jesus.  Thank God that He sent His Only begotten Son to the world to reconcile sinful man back to the Holy God.  Thank God that He did not leave us in our sinful state.  Thank God that we can be free from the burden and the penalty of sin.  Thank God that Jesus bore our weight of sin on His body, that we might once again have the right to the tree of life.

He did all of this for you and for me, in the beginning…

Qualifications for Pastoral Leadership

Timothy 3:1-7

This is a true saying, If a man desire the office of a bishop, he desireth a good work.
A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach;
Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous;
One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity;
(For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)
Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil.
Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.

Titus 1:5b-11

…ordain elders in every city, as I had appointed thee:
If any be blameless, the husband of one wife, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly.
For a bishop must be blameless, as the steward of God; not selfwilled, not soon angry, not given to wine, no striker, not given to filthy lucre;
But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just, holy, temperate;
Holding fast the faithful word as he hath been taught, that he may be able by sound doctrine both to exhort and to convince the gainsayers.
For there are many unruly and vain talkers and deceivers, specially they of the circumcision:
Whose mouths must be stopped, who subvert whole houses, teaching things which they ought not, for filthy lucre’s sake…

This issue has stirred up my spirit more than once in the year 2012. I have watched the sacred desk be disgraced by more than one person who says that he is “called” by God to pastor, but then I have watched his life exemplify everything except a calling from God.

I cannot understand how anyone does not see that God made it very clear in His Word who was to shepherd His people. He said through Paul to Timothy that if any man desired this work, he desired a good work. Shepherding is a good work for those who are called and qualified. God loves for us to have pastors because He said “And I will give you pastors according to Mine heart, which shall feed you with knowledge and understanding” (Jeremiah 3:15). God gave the pastoral qualifications in accordance with His Word and His will for us. He knew that leading his people would be an influential  task, and He only wanted the influence of someone who exemplified His leadership to be in that role. We have, however, followed and tolerated men who do not exemplify these qualities at all. In the last two years alone, the news has been full of so-called pastors who have been caught in all kinds of scandals, from extra-marital affairs to financial impropriety. Paul warned us that this would come. Now it is here.

I am reminded of a situation in the national news where a certain pastor was crowned in his church pulpit. I know of another situation where a pastor verbally threatened a blogger who called him out for fleecing the sheep in his church. Another nationally known pastor was thrown off of a commercial flight for his behavior and language. Another nationally known pastor got married and within three years of getting married, he fathered two children with young women in his congregation, and one of them was a minor! Yet another nationally known pastor renounced the gospel, began teaching that there is no real hell, and that we are all saved by the blood of Jesus. He said that gospel made him feel better about his unsaved grandparents who died without a relationship with the Lord Jesus.

Locally, a pastor killed his wife, went to church and lied in the pulpit about her whereabouts. Another pastor was involved in an extramarital affair, and while he was with his mistress in another state, he had some health problems that prevented him from getting home on his own. He actually had to call someone from the church he pastored to come and get him and take him home! Another pastor began an affair and left his wife and children while still pastoring his church. Another pastor’s teenage son got his girlfriend pregnant, and instead of being ashamed, he and his wife flaunted the fact that they were going to be grandparents. They forced the young man and his girlfriend to get married, and then the young man left the church and joined the nation of islam.

I will not even touch the subject of women pastors.

All of the above-mentioned men have disqualified themselves from pastoral leadership. The Bible says that the bishop must be blameless. If I know about an affair that you are having, then you are not blameless! I don’t even think we consider the blameless quality because everyone is so defensive about someone falsely accusing them. Being falsely accused and being blameless are two totally different things…

The pastor is to be the husband of one wife. Every man who involves himself sexually with another woman has joined himself spiritually to a harlot (1 Corinthians 6:16). When a man enters a sexual relationship with a woman, he is joined to her spiritually, which is why God reserved the sexual relationship for a husband and his wife. It is a covenant relationship, and when he breaks that covenant, he is disqualified from pastoral leadership. (Bible scholars differ on how long he is disqualified. In my opinion, he is disqualified forever. Others suggest that if he is repentant and has lived a number of years as a Godly example, then he can be restored.) How can he lead men in marital relationships that honor the Lord when he cannot keep honor the Lord with his own marriage?

The pastor must be one of good behavior. Remember the pastor I told you about earlier who got thrown off of the commercial flight because of his language and attitude? That was not good behavior. Remember the pastor who was crowned in his church? He was also accused of taking indecent liberties with several young men in his church. That is not good behavior. Remember the pastor who left his wife and his children while still pastoring his church? That same pastor tried to destroy his wife and ruin her reputation in the community. That is not good behavior. Remember the pastor who fathered two children with women in his congregation within three years of getting married? He had the audacity to go into the pulpit and use David’s indiscretion as his excuse to tell the congregation “I am STILL the man!” while the congregation clapped and cheered him on.

We have tolerated this kind of behavior in the church far too long. No one is willing to call the pastor out on his behavior.  The church has replaced the worship of the Lord Jesus and replaced it with worshiping the pastor. But you better hear me, church of the Living GOD! This nonsense has got to stop. You have got to stand on the Word of God. God’s Word is truth and there is no one or nothing that is excused from obeying God’s law. James even went so far as to say that people ought to be careful in taking these teaching positions in the church, because they come with greater condemnation for those who take them lightly. I guess the church thinks that God does not mean what He says. I think we have gotten comfortable here in this world.

Jesus is coming back sooner than we think. When He returns, all of this nonsense that the church is “getting away with” right now is going to stop. The Bible says that He is coming back for a people that are without spot or blameless (2 Peter 3:14). The church today is not only spotted, but we are not without blame and neither are our leaders.

I will continue to pray for pastors, teachers and leaders within the body of Christ. I pray that the power of the Holy Spirit will capture their hearts and draw them back to God’s Word, where I am sure they all started.

Dear Lord,

Please draw your people back unto Yourself. Please fill our pastors and teachers with Your Spirit and give them the desire to shepherd Your people to the best of their ability. Fill Your church with Your people who live by Your standard and are ready to spread the gospel of Jesus Christ to all the lost people of the world. Help the pastors live a life that shows the love and holiness of the Lord Jesus Christ, because You said in Your Word that without holiness, no man shall see the Lord…

We thank You and praise you In Jesus’ Name…

Irreconcilable Differences


Genesis 2:24

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.


Matthew 19:5-6

And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?

Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.


Mark 10:7-8

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife;

And they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh.


Ephesians 5:31, 33

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.


Of course you have heard this phrase. Every time a marriage ends for no apparent reason, the divorce papers read “irreconcilable differences”. Every time a relationship of any kind ends for reasons other than those involving death, irreconcilable differences can be used as the excuse. Let’s examine exactly what irreconcilable differences are…


According the, the word irreconcilable means “incapable of being brought into harmony or adjustment; incompatible”. It is an adjective that is derived from the root word reconcile, which means “to bring into agreement or harmony; to make compatible or consistent”.

The reason that relationships are incapable of being brought into harmony is that “…every way of a man is right in his own eyes…”(Proverbs 21:2). Everyone thinks that he or she is right. Whatever he or she wants to do is right. Never should he or she settle for being uncomfortable in the marriage. Never should there be a struggle. No one thinks that he or she should put up with the behavior or attitude of a partner who does not do exactly what he or she thinks that partner should do. As soon as disagreements arise over money, children, material things, outside relationships, etc., partners tend to forget the promises that they made, and they rationalize their need to be out of the relationship. Hence, the failing marriage rate in the world, and the rise of the couples choosing to live together without the benefit of marriage.


This is not God’s plan. Genesis 2:24 says “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” This is the marriage union. This is how God designed it from the beginning of time. Matthew 19:6 says “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” “Let not man put asunder” includes the two in the marriage. It is not God’s intention, husband, for you to wake up one morning and decide that you just don’t want to be married anymore, pack up your things, and leave your wife. It is also displeasing to God, wife, for you to end your marriage because of anything other than the death of your husband. However, in the 21st century, we treat a marriage partner like a pair of socks: wear them a while and then change them.


I could name a thousand famous people in this country who have had multiple marriage partners. But I will not even deal with the world while addressing this issue. I want to deal strictly with the church. It pains me to see how many marriages in the body of Christ are falling apart. This is not just an issue within the lay people of the church: leaders are divorcing also. Pastors, teachers, elders, deacons, you name it…they are leaving their wives just like the men in the world. I am reminded of a well-known pastor who had a physical altercation with his wife in public. I do not know if this was something that had happened in their home on a regular basis, but one time is one time too many. Nothing should have driven a man who is filled with the Spirit of God to behave that way with the world looking on. I am thinking of another pastor who was accused of having inappropriate relationships with young men. Eventually, the pressure of the scandal got to his wife and she left him. Although I understand that she had biblical grounds based on the fact that he was unfaithful in the marriage, I believe that if he came to her in repentance, and I do not know that he did, she should have forgiven him and continued on with the marriage to protect the integrity of the ministry in which they had started and the reputation of the body of Christ in front of the world. It is not like these people are in rural areas where there is no television reception; these people are in metropolitan cities where you can barely sneeze without a news vehicle parking across the street from your church. I can think of another young pastor who started a church, which grew to be an enormous church in a short amount of time. He had a powerful testimony of overcoming several obstacles by the help of the Lord. He met and married a beautiful young woman and they started a family of three children. Shortly after giving birth to their last child, this wife found out that her pastor-husband had fathered two other children outside of their marriage, within the church.  Instead of resigning immediately, he arrogantly announced to his congregation that, just like David, he had made mistakes, but he was still “the man”. He is still pastoring that church today. As a matter of fact, all of the aforementioned pastors are still in their pulpits, with the full support of their congregations. I know another pastor who left his wife for another woman, and when confronted about her husband’s actions, the elders of his church supported him and refused to take any action. He openly flaunted his relationships with other women, and the body of Christ stood by and watched this happen. He, too, continued to stand in the pulpit Sunday after Sunday and teach error to the people who came to the church.


Each one of these marriages had a foundation that should have been built on the Word, but the divorce papers in each of these situations will read “irreconcilable differences”. Why? There is no reason that two people who truly love the Lord and want to please Him cannot work out whatever problems that they are having. If a Christian goes to the doctor and gets a diagnosis of cancer, they will immediately ask for prayer from other Christians because they trust that God can heal them of whatever malady that they have. If a Christian gets laid off from his or her job, they will immediately ask for prayer from other Christians because they trust that God can provide for them either another job or a means to support themselves while they are waiting. Christians trust God when they are looking for a job or a house or a car or a promotion or a church or a position or whatever the case may be, but for some reason, we do not trust that God can fix “irreconcilable differences”.


Guess what? There are lots of things that are irreconcilable. Day is full of light and night is dark. The two shall never reconcile that. Winter is cold, and summer is hot. There will never be reconciliation between the two. My husband is a night owl and I am a morning person. He likes to get there “on time”, but I like to be thirty minutes early. Those things will probably never change. God’s nature is holy and man’s nature is sinful. That is never going to change. But God reconciled man back to Himself by sending His darling Son, Jesus, to die on the cross for our sins. He became the curse of sin for us, in that He bore our weight of sin on His body while He hung on the cross, that way, the irreconcilable difference between us and God was bridged and no more did we have to die in our sins and go to a burning hell for all eternity. We could place our faith in Jesus and instantly have a relationship with the Father because of His loving kindness and tender mercy. The difference between us and Him can indeed be reconciled…


The burden of my heart is still to see marriages healed and strengthened. I pray for those married couples that I know every single day. I pray for the marriages that are in good shape, those that are struggling and those that are in between. I pray for the marriages of pastors, particularly my pastor, because it would break my heart and vex my spirit if I knew that he was living in a continuous state of sin. I pray for them because I know that there are no differences that are totally irreconcilable.

Come Lord Jesus, Come!

1 Thessalonians 4:13-18
But I would not have you to be ignorant, brethren, concerning them which are asleep, that ye sorrow not, even as others which have no hope.

For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with Him.

For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep.

For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the archangel, and with the trump of God: and the dead in Christ shall rise first:

Then we which are alive and remain shall be caught up together with them in the clouds, to meet the Lord in the air: and so shall we ever be with the Lord.

Wherefore comfort one another with these words.


What a comforting thought to know that one day that Lord is going to return and take His children home to be with Him forever! Sometimes when the cares of the world get me down, when those who are closest to me let me down, when I am weary and worn and fearful and despondent, when the news is bad and money is tight and the report is dreary, I think on the fact that all of this is temporary. I remember Paul’s description of the coming of the Lord. He said the Lord shall “descend from heaven with a shout”. I sometimes wonder if I will be shouting too, because I know I will be excited if I am one of those who are “alive and remain” until the coming of the Lord Jesus. I long for His coming. I long to meet Him face to face. I want to live in the splendor of heaven forever, leaving behind the world of agony in which we presently live.


I think of all the of the saints who have gone before and have already met the Lord. I think about people like Abraham, Isaac and Jacob, Moses, Joshua, and Caleb, Samuel, Isaiah, Elijah and David. I have often thought of Jeremiah, and how my heart is burdened like his for the people of God and for the lost people that I know. I think of Habakkuk and how he wondered how long the Lord would allow the unrighteous to seemingly get away with their wickedness. I think of Godly Bible teachers and church leaders who have gone before, like Jonathan Edwards and Charles Spurgeon, like Adrian Rogers and J. Vernon McGee. I also think of loved ones that I know are resting at the feet of Jesus, like my grandmother and one of my friends. I will be glad when I can see them all.


I will certainly be glad to meet the Father. I hope I get a private moment with Him. I want to talk to Him about so much. I hope I get to chat with Him about how His Word sustained me during some difficult times. I hope I get to tell Him how much His encouragement and peace meant to me while I was here on earth.


I do not claim to know when the Lord will return, but I do know that it will be a glorious day for all those who know Him. If you do not know Him, do not let this moment pass. Tomorrow is not promised.

Great is Thy Faithfulness


Lamentations 3:22-26

It is of the LORD’s mercies that we are not consumed, because His compassions fail not.
They are new every morning: great is Thy faithfulness.
The LORD is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in Him.
The LORD is good unto them that wait for Him, to the soul that seeketh Him.
It is good that a man should both hope and quietly wait for the salvation of the LORD.


This week, an acquaintance of mine had to bury one of their children. My heart has been so very heavy for this family all week. I cannot imagine what they must be going through. The loss of a child, my grandmother used to say, is one of the things that one never gets over. It is a wound that is never healed.


As I thought of this bereaved family, and talked to the Lord about their plight, I wondered how on earth this could have happened. I know I, as well as others, had prayed diligently this situation to turn out differently. I wondered what was God doing while this child lay dying.


One evening, in my quiet time with the Lord, God reminded me, as He does ever so faithfully, that even when we think that He is not there, He is right there, ever so lovingly being in control of the situation. As bad as the situation may be, He reminded me that things could always be worse, and the only reason that they are not is because of the restraining power of the Holy Spirit.


The Father also reminded me that Matthew 19:14 says “But Jesus said, Suffer little children, and forbid them not, to come unto Me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven.” This child, who will be so desperately missed by family and friends, is at this millisecond seated at the feet of Jesus, enjoying all the splendor of heaven, witnessing the ultimate choir made up of angels, and suffering no more.


God is faithful. He is faithful when I understand Him and when I don’t. He is faithful when I like what He does and when I don’t. He is good and righteous and just and holy and pure and sovereign and powerful and merciful and beyond description. His compassion never fails. He is merciful beyond measure. As painful as it is to be physically separated from one’s child, even in that, God is faithful.