I’m A Christian, But I’m Not Ashamed

This is an article that I read recently by a wonderful young man named Samuel Sey.  I follow him on Twitter, and I am super impressed with his writing skill, his maturity, and his love for the things of God.  He is a wonderful representation of what Godliness in youth should look like, and I thank the LORD that He allowed me to be exposed to this young man.  As I read his material, I often think of his mother, who must be beyond proud of the young man that the LORD allowed her to raise.  I know that you will be as blessed by his blogging as I am.  I did receive his permission to post this, and with his permission I will post other writings in the future.

I’m a Christian, but I’m Not Ashamed

Buzzfeed recently released a video titled, I’m Christian, But I’m Not. In the video, which currently has over seven million views on Facebook, several supposed Christians defend their Christianity by suggesting that unlike other closed-minded and ignorant Christians, they support feminism and homosexuality.

Essentially, the video propagates that true Christians actually support homosexuality, feminism, and whatever else the Western world has dictated to be right through groupthink. At one point in the video, a lady says, “At it’s core, [Christianity] really is about love, and acceptance, and being a good neighbor.” That however is not necessarily true. Christianity is about Jesus Christ.

A Christian is simply defined as a person who believes in the teachings of Jesus Christ. Therefore if a person claims to be a Christian but does not live by the teachings of Jesus Christ as revealed in the Bible: they are not a Christian. In attempting to redefine the meaning of Christianity, Jesus Christ and the Bible are mentioned exactly zero times in the video. As a result, the Christian and Biblical meaning of love, acceptance, and good neighboring is effectively manipulated to deceive genuine Christians into supporting (primarily) homosexuality.

However, Jesus Christ conveyed in the Bible that homosexuality is a sinful practice ( Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthians 6:9-10). Therefore, Christians must believe that homosexuality is indeed a sinful practice. We should not be apologetic of our Christianity; we should not be ashamed of the gospel:

I am not ashamed of the gospel, for it is the power of God for salvation to everyone who believes. – Romans 1:16

Interestingly, one of the ladies in the video said, “Christianity does not ruin people.” That is perhaps the only accurate statement in the video. Christianity does not ruin people. In fact, it does the complete opposite: Christianity saves people. I would understand the need for Christians to be apologetic and ashamed of Christianity if the gospel ruined people, but the reality is, it does not. Sin ruins people; the gospel restores people.

Christianity teaches that Jesus Christ being fully God and fully man, lived a perfect and sinless life, and willingly sacrificed Himself on a cross, taking our sinful record on Himself and giving those who would believe and follow Him His righteous record, so that upon suffering the wrath of God the Father to the point of His death, and resurrecting three days later; sinners would be declared righteous on Christ’s account and saved from the wrath of God in Hell.  1 Peter 3:18 says:

Christ also suffered once for sins, the righteous for the unrighteous, that he might bring us to God.

Therefore contrary to the words in the video, we Christians do not place ourselves on a pedestal. We believe that like everyone else, we too are unrighteous and sinful. We do not place ourselves on a pedestal; Instead, We place our Savior Jesus Christ on the pedestal.


Hello to my readers…

I know it has been three months since I posted last.  I do apologize for that.  Life has been coming at me fast!  Since April I have moved to a whole new city, started a new job, and I have been doing ministry work in my new city.  Life has been challenging and I have questioned a lot that God is doing, but I know that He is still at work!  Philippians 1:6 says “…He which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ…”  God continues to perform that good work in me.

I shall return to my blog very soon.  Thanks for your patience.  Stay tuned!

End Abortion Now…

Jeremiah 32:35

And they built the high places of Baal, which are in the valley of the son of Hinnom, to cause their sons and their daughters to pass through the fire unto Molech; which I commanded them not, neither came it into My mind, that they should do this abomination, to cause Judah to sin.

Leviticus 18:21

And thou shalt not let any of thy seed pass through the fire to Molech, neither shall thou profane the Name of thy God: I am the LORD.

In the United States, abortion became legal on January 22, 1973.  That day,  it was written into law that a woman had the legal right to go into a clinic and have her baby’s life terminated prematurely.  In my opinion, that is the greatest act of terrorism that has ever been perpetrated on American soil.  Abortion is murder; plain and simple.

Apparently God feels the same way too.  Not only did He command Moses to tell the Israelites not to kill (Exodus 20:13), but He also said that they were not to allow their children to go “through the fire”.  God would not allow Israel to follow the practices of the people of Molech, who had no problem putting their children on the altar and sacrificing them to a false god.  God told Israel that if they did that, they would profane the Name of their God.

America is doing the same thing.  America has profaned the Name of the LORD to the tune of nearly 7 million babies since 1973.  As God told Cain about his brother, Abel, in Genesis 4:10, “And He said, What hast thou done? The voice of thy brother’s blood crieth unto Me from the ground.”  God is saying that same thing to America.  The blood of 7 million dead babies is crying out to God from the ground.

America: repent!  Turn from this wickedness!  If you are a mother who has aborted a child, ask God to forgive you and begin working to end this travesty in our nation.  If you are a father whose child has been aborted, ask the LORD to forgive you and begin using your voice to cry out against murder in the womb.  God hates murder:  He hates it when someone kills someone else, period.  Man is created in God’s image, and God does not like it when His image is destroyed.  God loves children:  He said in Matthew 19:14, “…Suffer little children and forbid them not, to come unto Me: for of such is the kingdom of heaven…”  Jesus would not let His disciples keep the children from “disturbing” Him.  His heart was filled with love for them and there was nothing that He was too busy doing that would keep Him from showing them His love.

God will not reject you if you come to Him in sincerity.  He will welcome you with open arms and adopt you into His family if you repent of your sin and turn to Him.  God loves you so much that He sent His one and only Son to die for your sins.  Turn to Him and cry out against this vile, wicked sin.



As If The Covenant Isn’t A Covenant Anymore…

Genesis 2:24

Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

Ephesians 5:25, 28-29, 31

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave Himself for it…So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies.  He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth itm even as the LORD the church…so ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.  For this cause shall am an leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.  

1 Peter 3:7-9

Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.   Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous:  Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

This week, I heard the news of several long term marriages that are ending in divorce.  The marriages to which I am referring were between people who are not believers, but for whatever reason, my heart is broken for them nevertheless.  Marriage was created by God…He is the inventor and the source of all marriage relationships.  I believe that even in marriages occupied by those who are not believers in the LORD Jesus Christ, the same marriage covenant applies.

I looked the word “covenant” up in the dictionary.  The definitions found in the dictionary do not include the one that God placed in His Word.  God made a covenant with Abraham in Genesis 12:2-3, which says,

“And I will make of thee a great nation, and I will bless thee, and make thy name great; and thou shalt be a blessing:  And I will bless them that bless thee, and curse him that curseth thee: and in thee shall all families of the earth be blessed.”

God made this promise to Abraham and He has kept it, even to this day.  God told Abraham that He would make him a great nation.  God has done that; as we know, Israel is the center of the earthly universe.  It is the greatest nation on the earth.  It has the strongest military on earth and the wealthiest people.  God promised Abraham that He would bless Abraham’s family, and He has done so.  God promised that He would make Abraham’s name great, and we know that is true.  Here we are, some 4,000 to 5,000 years later, and we are still talking about Abraham.  We recognize him as the father of the nation of Israel.  We also recognize him as the patriarch of the Christian community, because we are known as the “seed of Abraham” (2 Corinthians 11:22).  God promised Abraham that he would be a blessing to the world.  Abraham has been that, because through his seed, the Christ Child was born.  God promised Abraham that He would bless anyone that blessed the nation of Israel.  Here in America, we are the recipients of those blessings because of our history of allegiance with the nation of Israel.  There have been times that we have not been faithful to Israel as we should have been, and our country has suffered because of that.  But for the most part, we have been blessed partially because we have mainly stood on the right side, which is on Israel’s side.  And to note:  now we are in a really good place since our current president has acknowledged Jerusalem as the capital of Israel and took the measures to have our embassy moved to its new location in Jerusalem.  God also said that He would curse those who curse Israel.  As I said before, there have been times that America has not been faithful to our position as Israel’s ally, and we have incurred God’s wrath during those times.  God says what He means and means what He says in His Word concerning His chosen people, Israel.  We can see how every family on the earth has been blessed by the nation of Israel.  If we look at the entertainment industry in America, most of the powerful people in places like Hollywood and New York are Jewish.  Many of the owners of the sports teams and people who control the billion dollar sports industry in the United States are Jewish.  These are the people who have not only provided the entertainment that we enjoy, but they have also made America the richest nation on earth through their entertainment venues.  God’s promise to Abraham has been a blessing to all of the world in more ways than we can count!

My point in all that is that God kept His promise to Abraham.  The promise that God made is unbreakable, which is why it is called a covenant.  None of the definitions found in the dictionary for the word “covenant” included the word “unbreakable”.  The only definitions that I found that were even remotely close to scripture were:

  1. the conditional promises made to humanity by God, as revealed in Scripture.
  2. the agreement between God and the ancient Israelites, in which God promised to protect them if they kept His law and were faithful to Him.

God’s promise to Abraham was not based on any conditions.  God did not tell Abraham that the promises were only good if he kept the law.  As a matter of fact, at the time that God made the covenant with Abraham, He had not yet given the law.  The only instruction God gave Abraham was to leave his family home.  So, you see how the definition lacks a very important part of what a covenant really is.

All that said, marriage is like the covenant that God made with Abraham:  it is not to be broken.  Marriage is between one man and one woman for life.  Marriage is a picture of Jesus Christ’s relationship with the church.  Jesus is called the “bridegroom” in Matthew 9 and 25, Mark 2, Luke 5, John 2 and 3, and Revelation 18.  Jesus Christ is the bridegroom and the church is the bride, in Revelation 18, 21 and 22.  I point these passages out because never do you read where Jesus leaves His bride.  Jesus would never abandon the church the way husbands abandon their wives these days.  That is not to say that husbands are the only ones who leave the marriage, but as of this writing, less than 1% of the marriages that have been destroyed are because the wife decided to leave.  It appears that no one knows that marriage is a covenant.  A covenant is an UNBREAKABLE promise.  The vows that two people make at the altar in front of God, each other, a minister, a judge, a magistrate, family and friends are vows that are never to be broken until death.

Last year, a friend’s mother went home to be with the LORD.  She left her husband behind, after 61 years of marriage.  I know they went through difficult times in their marriage, but never once did I hear that they were on the verge of separation.  Another friend’s dad passed away leaving his wife of 51 years.  They did struggle in their marriage, and they actually separated for a few months, but they honored the covenant and worked out their issues, and he took very good care of his wife, leaving her financially comfortable after his death.  Billy and Ruth Graham were married for 64 years before her death.  George Beverly Shea and his first wife, Emma, were married for 42 years before her death, and he and his second wife, Karlene, were married for 28 years before his death.  Franklin Graham and his wife, Jane, have been married for 44 years.  Adrian and Joyce Rogers were married for 54 years before he went home to be with the LORD in 2005.  I mention all these long marriages because these people knew that marriage is a “covenant”.  Even through the difficult times, these couples honored the COVENANT.

Today, my heart is broken for the covenant.  No longer do people who claim the Name of Christ honor the promise that they made to Him and their spouse to “love, honor and cherish” for as long as they both live.  The rate of divorce within the church community is the same as it is outside the church community.  Breaking a promise is equal to sin, and God will allow NO SIN to go unpunished.  1 John 2:4 says “He that saith, I know Him, and keepeth not His commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him.”  I find it hard to believe that Christian men who walk away from the promise that they made to God and their wives is really a Christian at all.  True Christians love the LORD with all their heart and strive to serve Him with every area of their lives.  True Christians want to please the LORD.  True Christians are convicted when they do wrong, and leaving the person with whom they have made a covenant is a sin of the highest order.

One of my favorite quotes by one of my favorite theologians, Dr. Erwin Lutzer says “God hold fathers accountable for their wives and children.”  If you are a wife who has been abandoned by your husband and you are struggling emotionally, spiritually and financially, take comfort in the fact that your Father in heaven sees all and knows all.  Every tear you cry will be counted to your husband’s account on the day of judgment.  Every sleepless night will be counted to your husband’s account on the day of judgment.  Every bill you couldn’t pay, every time the enemy attacked your mind or heart, every time your children were hurting or disappointed or feeling like less than what God made them will all be counted to your husband’s account on the day of judgment.  As much as it pains me to think of anyone suffering God’s judgment, it comforts me to know that the man who promised me he would always take care of me is not going to get away with leaving my children and me to fend for ourselves.




It’s About Time

Proverbs 4:23

Keep thy heart with all diligence, for out of it are the issues of life.

Today I read an article online that announced Walmart’s decision to no longer carry the Cosmopolitan magazine at their checkout counters. Apparently, there was some pressure for Walmart to make this decision coming from a conservative “watchdog” group who had been after Walmart for a long time about some of the magazines that they force their customers to endure at the checkout.  As the mother of an 11-year-old son and the estranged wife of a porn addict, I can tell you that this news is like music to my ears.  I get so tired of my son having to be exposed to pornographic garbage every time we go someplace as seemingly innocent as the grocery store.

What most people do not understand about these images (and most do not care) is that once these images are taken into a man’s eyes long enough, they are seared into his brain so much so that they affect his decision making through out his life.  My estranged husband was introduced to porn 53 years ago, and has struggled with it ever since.  Not only is it an addiction that he cannot conquer, but it has been such a burden on his soul that he does not have any healthy relationships with family or friends due to the fact that he is ashamed of who he is when he is alone.  He is trapped in his sin, and I am doggedly determined that my son will not suffer that same fate.

Pornography is a dangerous thing.  It destroys lives, minds, hearts, relationships, marriages and families.  I know this from personal experience, because it destroyed my family.  My heart is still broken over discovering my husband in front of our family computer taking in some of the most vile images that I have ever seen.  My heart is broken for my children and for our mutual friends who have all had to endure the devastation that has come from the breakup of our marriage.  This all happened because my husband’s father allowed his son to be exposed to a pornographic magazine when he was only eight years old.

Proverbs 4:23 says “Keep your heart with all diligence…”  I am teaching my son to train his eyes to turn away from images of women who are scantily clad.  I am teaching him to train his eyes to turn away from women who are inappropriately dressed.  I am teaching my daughters to dress modestly, not only to protect themselves from predators, but to make sure that they are not tempting men to look at them in a manner in which those men should not look at them. I want the young men who marry my daughters to be attracted to the beauty that is within them, and not their externals.  I am training my children to guard their hearts, because every issue of life is going to come from the heart.

If you are reading this and you have struggled to break free from pornography, check out the book by Todd Friel and Heath Lambert, “Finally Free: Purity is Possible”.  The cycle of guilt and failure will not end until you decide you finally want to be free.

Submitting to Authority

Romans 13:1-4

Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God.  Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation.  For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same:  For he is the minister of God to thee for good. But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword in vain: for he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute wrath upon him that doeth evil.

I had a conversation with a friend today who couldn’t get enough of bashing our President, Mr. Donald J. Trump.  I politely referred my friend to the passage of scripture referenced above.

You see, regardless of what anyone thinks of the President of the United States, he is the most powerful man in the world.  He has the one of the most technologically advanced militia at his disposal.  He oversees the every day comings and goings of the most prosperous country in the world.  He has the power to destroy many more nations than I care to think about, and all of those reasons are still not why we need to submit to his authority.

God’s Word says that we are to “…be subject to the higher powers.  For there is no power but of God…”  My friend’s argument was that our “free will” vote at the polls placed our president in office, as if God had no control over who would be president!  I cannot believe that any Christian who has ever read a word out of God’s Word could think that way.  Yes, we do have free will.  Yes, we did go to the polls.  Yes, we have the freedom to vote for whomever we choose.  But no, ultimately, God decides who is going to be president or king or prime minister or ruler over any nation.  And for this season of time, God chose President Trump.

“Whoever resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God…”  We do not have to like the president or any other authority figure, but we do have to respect him.  God placed him in office, no matter what anyone says or thinks.  God is in control of what happens.  I believe that the believers who were praying that Hilary Clinton would not get in the White House bombarded heaven, and I believe that God responded to those prayers.  I believe that God placed President Trump in office for the good of those who do good, and for the terror of those who do wickedness.

The long and short of it is, regardless of who is in office, they deserve our respect.  God demands that we give them our respect.  If we disrespect them, we are bucking against God and He is not pleased with that.  God will not be mocked, and if we think so, we are in for a rude awakening.

Romans 10:9-10 says “That if thou shalt confess with thy mouth the LORD Jesus and believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved.  For with the heart man believeth unto salvation, and with the mouth confession is made.”  If you are reading these words and have never confessed that Jesus is LORD and Master of your life, do not let this moment pass without doing so.  One day you will stand in judgment in front of Him, and you will be judged on what you believed about Him.  If you were correct in your belief, you will spend eternity with Him, but if not….you are destined for hell.

How To Raise A Godly Man

Proverbs 10:13

In the lips of him that hath understanding wisdom is found: but a rod is for the back of him that is void of understanding.

Proverbs 13:24

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.

Proverbs 22:6, 15

Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.  Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.

Proverbs 23:13-14

Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.  Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.

Proverbs 29:15

The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame.

After my son’s basketball game yesterday, one of his teammate’s mom and I had a chance to chat.  She commented on his behavior.  She told me that she had had several interactions with my son, where he opened doors for her.  She also commented on his sharing the ball with his teammates when he could have scored himself.  She mentioned several things that she noticed, and then she asked this question: “What do you do?”

For a millisecond my mind raced.  “What do I do?”  I thought.  I don’t really DO anything anymore.  My son is the person that he will become, being that he is eleven years old.  The personality that he will have is already formed.  The opinions that he has about the big things in life is already formed.  His likes and dislikes are already formed.  He already knows that he likes hot dogs and he hates cheese.  He already knows he likes basketball and baseball but does not like football.  He already knows that he is male and his sisters are female.  I really don’t DO anything anymore.

To answer her question, however, I thought on the things that I DID…the things that I was led of the LORD to do when he was a baby, a toddler, and a little boy.  I was led by the LORD to have a time of daily Bible study with my son and his three sisters.  Each day, we began sitting on the floor in their bedroom, with all of our Bibles open, even though, at the time, he and his sisters could not read.  I taught them to open up the Bible to the passage of the day, and we would go through a chapter, 12 verses at a time.  At that time, I figured that 12 verses would be all that their little minds could comprehend.  We would have prayer before we began, and after we finished we would pray as a family.  Each child, beginning with my son, would thank the LORD for His death on the cross, His daily provision, and the forgiveness of our sins.  Then we would ask Him to save or bless those whose names crossed our minds, and we would ask Him to provide those needs that we had in our personal lives.  We have kept up this pattern of worship from their infancy to the present, and they are all pre-teens and teenagers now.  We eventually graduated from 12 verses to whole chapters, and we discuss each verse because I do not want my children have surface knowledge of God’s Word….I want them to understand in depth what God’s Word says to us.

The other main thing that I did was discipline my children.  Discipline and disciple are two words that are closely related.  Jesus kept His disciples close to Him, and when they needed correcting, He corrected them.  The same applies to my children.  When they would disobey, they would get warnings, but when they didn’t listen to the warnings, they would get what we called “Miss Do Right”.  Miss Do Right was applied to their “seat of knowledge”, and normally, once Miss Do Right spoke, the problem was solved.  I thank God for “Miss Do Right” and I think my children do also, because at this point in our lives, we don’t have a Miss Do Right in our home.  When I speak, they listen.  When I give instruction, usually they obey.  Very seldom do we have big issues with obedience in our home based on the fact that instruction was given in the beginning, and now the lessons have already been learned.

If you are the parent of an out of control teenager, and you did not use these methods in their developmental years, I am sure you are regretting that at this point.  But never fear:  as long as they are alive, it is not too late.  You can begin teaching them God’s Word, talking about the things of God every chance you get.  At dinner, assuming that you have dinner with your teenager, talk about how good God is, and how He has blessed your family and saved you from hell and gave you your family and your home and all of the tangible things that your teenager takes for granted.  Talk to them about how Jesus died on the cross at Calvary, bearing the weight of the sin of the world on His body, and how that is terribly difficult to understand without faith in Jesus Christ.  Tell them that Jesus is coming again, and no matter how they try to deny Him or avoid Him or hide from Him, they will answer to Him one day, by choice or by force.  Tell them that He loves them, and no matter how much the world tries to deny Him, He is real, He is sovereign, and He is coming again to judge the world, living and dead, for all they have done on this earth.

This is my suggestion for raising a Godly man.